Hello. Please give me some perspective on this issue. I don't think I did anything wrong but I will consider your opinions if you think otherwise.
My Dsis has a 7mo DS who is in nursery full time. He has been attending said nursery for about 6 weeks now with no problems, he seems to really enjoy it. One day a week DSis works very late and her Dh usually works unsocial hours. On this day I pick up my DN and look after him in their home until Dsis or Bil comes home. I offered to do this, it would save them money on having to pay for a babysitter and most importantly I love the quality time with my DN.
So last night I went to pick DN up and could see him playing through the door. There were 2 other babies and one nursery worker sitting with them, back to the door so she didn't see me. DN was happily babbling away and smiling with another baby, I thought how lovely and was just standing there watching them for a moment, smiling at this.
DN, little bugger that he is reached over and grabbed the other baby's bib and she was pulled slightly side ways. Now, I fully expected the nursery worker to tell him off with a "ah ah, we don't pull other baby's bibs. Don't do that." Or something along those lines but instead she grabbed DN's arm and roughly pulled him.away from the baby and said in a raised voice "NO! Don't be a bad boy!" DN then started to cry and she lifted him and not-very-gently set him on the other side of her, and he fell back on the floor, bumping his head. I was flabbergasted tbh, and was extremely shocked to see a nursery worker treat a 7 month old baby like this when he doesn't know any better :(
When I opened the door she turned round and when she saw it was me she very quickly lifted crying DN off the floor and hugged him saying "oh it's ok. We're just a little unsettled aren't we?". I was not impressed and asked her why he was on the floor crying. She said it was because he was tired and was falling asleep. So blatantly lied to me.
I got DN and went straight to the nursery manager, who was horrified, and reassured me she would deal with the nursery worker appropriately. I was really annoyed that someone who works with young children would be so rough and snappy with them.
When I got to DSis house I fought with myself over whether to call her or wait til.she got home. I reasoned that if it were my child I would like to be told asap, so sent her a text asking her to ring me on her next break. When she rang, I told her everything and she was very annoyed, as expected. Was a bit off with me, but I assumed she was just angry because of the way her ds was treated.
Whenever she came home later, she asked me again what exactly had happened. I went over it again and she sighed and then said in a nasty tone "why did you go to the manager for?! You should have just told me and I would have dealt with it in the morning for fuck sake, I'm his mum."
Well to be honest I was very hurt by this. Yes, of course she is his mum, but I am his aunt, and I saw everything that happened, I was just trying to protect DN, but Dsis said I "stepped on her toes" and is fairly pissed off with me :(.
WIBU to go to the nursery manager instead of letting my Dsis deal with it? I love DN and thought I was doing the right thing, I was enraged by the way be was treated and felt sad for him. If it was your DC would you have been annoyed if their aunt went and spoke to nursery manager?
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To go and speak to nursery manager regarding my DNephew?
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StripyYellowSocks · 22/05/2015 11:49
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