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To think this girl was rude & want to say something to her mother

107 replies

RinkyTinkTen · 26/04/2015 18:34

Today I was driving out of my village and saw a girl (15) on her horse. I slowed right down to a crawl to let her pass, instead of thanking me, she threw me the filthiest look. I was on the phone(hand free) at the time, but if I hadn't have been, I'd have stopped and told her how rude she was.

The main reason I am so pissed off, is that I ride, my darling little horse is 4 and very good in traffic. I always thank people if they have made any sort of effort to slow down and give me a wide berth. Sometimes I can't take my hands off the reins, so do an exaggerated nod and pretty much yell thankyou.

When non horsey drivers pass rude riders like this, they may not bother to slow down next time and it might be me that ends up in the back seat of their car with my darling boy dead on the bonnet.

I've half a mind to either talk to her parents or drop a note through to them and telling them their daughter should wear hi-viz because if I ever found out my daughter behaved like this, I would sell her horse until she found some manners.

I also hate bad mannered people!

OP posts:
shewept · 26/04/2015 18:36

You think she gave you a dirty look? So you think they shouldn't her horse. I am a rider and I am confused

SomethingAboutNothing · 26/04/2015 18:36

I agree, rude horsey people don't do the rest of us any favours. Do you know her parents?

NerrSnerr · 26/04/2015 18:37

Because she gave you a dirty look? Probably a bit of an overreaction don't you think?

SpringBreaker · 26/04/2015 18:38

why would you let her pass? wouldnt you be driving around her?

Nolim · 26/04/2015 18:38

You are calling her parents because of a dirty look?

Chippednailvarnish · 26/04/2015 18:39

I'm guessing by your use of the words "filthy" and "darling" that you are making a mountain out of a molehill.

FeelTheNoise · 26/04/2015 18:39

She might have been concentrating really hard Confused

Seriously, if you have a pop at a KID either directly or through her parents for giving you what you perceive to be a dirty look, you're going to look like a right prick Hmm

londonrach · 26/04/2015 18:40

Rinty welcome to the none horse world. I lived in a rural location for years and tbh her behaviour is very common. Forget it! Move on.

My sister the other day was stationary for 20 minutes with loads of cars both sides whilst a lady on a horse pranched around the road. My sister was so worried the lady was going to fall. No one moved and my sister said she just hoped the ady woyldnt fall. Everyone kept quiet, turned engines off and hoped for the best. This poor horse should ever have been on the road. Anyway from what my sister said she managed to get the horse into a field. No thank you for the waiting cars but i bet you she was more concerned about sorting the horse out. If you a mntter my sister wants to know if you ok.

Annunziata · 26/04/2015 18:41

YANBU, manners cost nothing.

If she's old enough to be out by herself I assume she knows how to be courteous.

MammaTJ · 26/04/2015 18:42

SpringBreaker, I take it the horse and the OP were going in opposite directions.

Hi5Hello · 26/04/2015 18:42

If you were on your hands-free / Phone - were you paying as much attention as you should have been?

Did she see something that you didn't?

nicenewdusters · 26/04/2015 18:42

Wow, horse rage ! I'd rein it in if I was you.

shewept · 26/04/2015 18:43

How does anyone know it was a dirty look. She may just look like that or she may have been concentrating.

Theycallmemellowjello · 26/04/2015 18:43

Err she might have been concentrating on the road? Yes it's nice to acknowledge a driver who let's you by (horse or no horse) but it's not an obligation! As a driver, you're not doing people a favour by abiding by the laws and following the Highway Code and you're not owed anything because you do this.

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 26/04/2015 18:44

Really? Are you proposing marching up unannounced to the girl's parents to tell them she gave you a look?! Confused

DancingDinosaur · 26/04/2015 18:47

Maybe the girl has bitchy resting face Wink

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43cupsoftea · 26/04/2015 18:47

How old are you??? She threw you a dirty look? I'd understand if she'd yelled abuse at you but yabu to get so worked up at the way a young girl looked at you.

DancingDinosaur · 26/04/2015 18:47

Or maybe you do, hence the dirty look Grin

ShowMeYourTARDIS · 26/04/2015 18:49

I often appear pissed off because I'm squinting. I have blue eyes and I'm very sensitive to light. In reality, I'm just trying to see!

People don't monitor their facial expressions every second. Perhaps she was concentrating.

Aridane · 26/04/2015 18:50

Ha ha ha - mums net never fails to entertain me

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EponasWildDaughter · 26/04/2015 18:52

Think about it OP. Why would she have given you a dirty look?

If you can't think of a reason then then the chances are that she didn't tbh, and you have made a mistake about this.

If this is the case you are going to look bat shit crazy daft making a thing about this.

Off topic a bit but this reminds me of being at school and having to pass all the bitchy smoking girls sat on the walls outside at break time:

Them: ''Did you just give me a dirty look!?''

Me: Confused No!? (why in the hell would i?)

CrispyFern · 26/04/2015 18:53

Is this a reverse? Are you the 15 year old's mum?

balls2DWall · 26/04/2015 18:54

i gave your OP a dirty look at the phrase "darling little horse" Hmm

Owllady · 26/04/2015 18:55

Easy keeper
The mane problem is you've got the cob and let it canter
I'd walk on

FenellaFellorick · 26/04/2015 18:55

Are you sure?

What possible reason could she have had for giving you a 'dirty look'?

You slowed down. Is that a reason to give you a dirty look? Would any normal person glare at someone because they did the right thing? No.

Be logical here - Which is more likely - that you were considerate and she responded by giving you a dirty look or that she had an expression on her face that you misinterpreted as a dirty look?

Or - perhaps she did. You say you were on your phone? Hands free? Perhaps she saw your mouth moving and thought you were having a moan under your breath about her and about having to slow down. That's a possibility, right?