to spend 2 hours at the gym whilst dh is hard at work

[devon004]

Ok so another thread got me thinking. I am a sahm to 3dc. 2 at school and one toddler who is with me full time. Dh works long hours and has a medical condition which means he does very little around the house. He used to do some diy and gardening but recently he has been unable to motivate himself to do it. Plus some things are physically hard to do. He e does do a little cooking and washing up but that is about it. I also do all night wakings etc.
Now I have found a gym which offers a free creche so I have been going almost every day since March and I feel fantastic. I need to lose weight and I have Ibs and I understand excercise is beneficial for this condition.
so aibu to go to the gym for 2 hours per day whilst dh is at work and dd3 is being cared for in a creche. Obviously some days/ weeks I will go much less cue to other commitments.
So aibu

[devon004]

Sorry that was monday to friday except school holidays.

[morethanpotatoprints]

No YANBU as long as you can afford it.
just because you are a sahm doesn't mean you have to sah
Well done for being so motivated and I'm sure it will help the ibs.
You have said yourself that due to commitments it may be less sometimes, so you are putting the essentials first.
I don't see a problem tbh.
good for you.

[magimedi]

YANBU - keeping/getting fit is really important.

Be careful about going too often as you can get bored with it - better to go slightly less & look forward to & enjoy it.

[Nolim]

Go for it. It will make you healthier and happier.

[Finola1step]

Maybe look at it this way.. With your dh's medical condition, it is vital that you maintain your own fitness so that you are able to keep the family on track.

[devon004]

Some days I just swim and relax with a drink and magazine. Others days I do aqua. I am determined not to get bored. Dh was a little anti initially about the cost but actually he spends more on going to football matches and our kids can swim for free too.

[goodnessgraciousgouda]

erm....of course YANBU!

Why would you not be entitled to do something that you enjoy?

[devon004]

In school holiday older two will hopefully come too and we can play tennis whilst little one is in the creche.

[ElizabethHoover]

you dont need to spend 2 hours at the gym,
I bet if there wasnt a creche you might be more efficient in your timing!!

[GloGirl]

Yanbu

[Charis1]

well, of course you are not bu to go the gym. You are bu to expect to lose weight through it!

[yomellamoHelly]

Been there done that. Still do it now all dc are at school. (Just all goes wrong over holidays as can't say when dh is going to get back from work. - Am hoping that this year I'm fit enough to run round local area.)

[Jackiebrambles]

Not sure gym efficiency is the point here Elizabeth? :)

Sounds great op, enjoy it! Yanbu.

[Fourarmsv2]

Go for it! Our gym offers a free crèche. I can't understand why it's not packed (high quality from what I can see - windows into gym so that's quite a lot). You're still hands on for the other 12 hours they're awake!

[devon004]

Just read something on another thread about an adult relaxing for 12 hours whilst their spouse is hard at work is lazy and taking the mick got me thinking. Although I know is this case the wohm does much more than my dh does.

[devon004]

I spend about 1 to 1 1/2 in the gym depending upon arrival time and have a relaxing shower for other 30 minutes. Showers are never relaxing at home.

[devon004]

I havel lost a few pounds as have bern trying to eat healthier too.

[shewept]

Yanbu. Spending 2 hours at the gym isn't inefficient.

Me and dh run a business together, some days I go to the gym and leave him to it. He has hobbies, so do I.

As long as you can afford, crack on.

[GhoulWithADragonTattoo]

It actually sounds lovely. Your DC is getting social interaction from the other DCs. I'm sure you do child related activities and some things that benefit the household too. It's all about finding a balance overall I think.

[CrabbyTheCrabster]

YANBU at all, though 2 hours is quite a long time for a gym session. So long as you're not stretching it out and out to 4 hours though...

I've just got a GP referral for a subsidised gym membership for 3 months and am really looking forward to it, but feeling a little guilty for similar reasons to you. I'm telling myself that the cost will be more than made up for by the wine I am determined that I won't drink, and that my improved fitness will hopefully improve my energy levels and productivity.

Enjoy it!

[whois]

Sounds great. You get some 'me' time and some exercise, and it's not like you're paying over use so the more you go the better value it is!

[diddl]

Difference here though is that OP has a child with her still, so if she was at home she would still be doing childcare & not nothing, so wouldn't matter if she wasn't doing "chores".

[CloserToFiftyThanTwenty]

I don't understand what the problem is? Why wouldn't you do this?

[devon004]

Thank you everyone.

[devon004]

Its a 2 hour creche booking. Obviously dome of this time is spent sorting out stuff showering etc etc