Before I start I'd like to say I really hope this post does not come across as highly judgemental. I'm just genuinely interested in some opinions!
So I'm not actually a mum...I'm 22 and work in a pub a few nights a week. We have a function room at the bottom of the garden and a few days ago my boss told me I'd be working at a Christening on Saturday night. I thought this was kind of strange...every Christening I have been to (haven't actually been to one since I was about 13) have been quiet affairs, tea, cakes, cucumber sandwiches, that kinda thing! Of course a few drinks too. So when he said there was a Christening doo going on until 1am I was a bit :S.
Anyway arrive at 5pm just as the party are making their way back from the church. All started off fine! There was a DJ playing normal, chart type music. There were a lot of children who were all up dancing and enjoying themselves. But at about 9pm the music suddenly got far more clubby. We were so busy that I wasn't paying much attention to the dance floor but I suddenly noticed all the kids had gone so assumed they'd all gone home to bed! At around 11pm I walked around to collect glasses to see that all the kids were asleep on the side sofas under their coats..while their parents were getting smashed. People were ordering shots, bottles of wine (each), 4 or 5 pints in one go (each). Now I'm not a total square!! I admit I'm not like "most students". I don't drink much etc but I have actually worked in clubs/pubs/bars since I was 18. I fully appreciate the need to let off some steam! And this was the parents 3rd baby and the other 2 children both looked under 5 so I'm sure they were in need of a crazy night. But am I being a bit uptight to think it's strange to combine this with a Christening? Or at least arrange care for the children?
Is this how a lot of Christenings are now? I was worried that I was just being boring but the other guy and girl I was working with both agreed it was a bit strange, and they're both the type who go out 3-5 nights a week. Another girl I work with thought we were being fuddy duddy and said it's "any excuse for a party." It's actually her little girl's Christening today and in her words "I intend to get absolutely fucked."
I heard them all at the end of the evening saying they were going to go back to the parents' house (of the little boy who was Christened) to continue the party..and this was with 3 little ones in the house :/
Perhaps this was the one opportunity they felt they had to get all their friends together and have a really big blow out. So that, I can understand. But wouldn't you at least make arrangements for the children? Am I a total bore for wanting my children's Christenings to be all cutsey and traditional?? haha I do sometimes remind myself of Monica in Friends...anyone seen that episode where she throws Phoebe's bachelorette party and it's just tea and pate sandwiches and Phoebe is upset duet to the lack of a stripper?? haha anyway that's all really. Was just interested to get some advise from some mums!
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SpringBee · 25/05/2014 10:42
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