Before I start I should point out that for now this is entirely theoretical.
We are looking at houses with a view to moving in the next year or so and DH keeps pointing out places that have room to extend or areas that could be converted into granny annexes. When questioned it seems that he has the expectation that one day either his or my mother will probably end up living with us. The idea horrifies me!
I would never want to live with either my MIL or my mother. MIL has occasionally "joked" that she will come and live with us as she isn't particularly happy in her relationship. I've always ignored her as to me this is not and never will be an option.
MIL is nice enough but I do find her a bit irritating. DH is equally as irritated by her and usually ends up being quite snappy with her when she visits as she doesn't know when to let things drop. I feel the same about my own mother. My own mother would never expect to live with us and has often said that she would never want any of her children to give up their own lives to care for her.
So am I being selfish as my DH says? I suppose I am but is it unreasonable? It would be me who would end up doing the donkey work if such a situation ever occurred as DH is a lazy arse.
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Knackeredmum13 · 18/04/2014 09:58
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