To think this is a really weird FB status

(30 Posts)
Bearbehind Tue 18-Mar-14 20:53:31

Friend recently split with partner and posted a status along the lines of 'if you are not fucking, feeding or financing me, your opinions don't count'

Now I'm not a feminist but really don't understand the sentiment- is it me? hmm

deakymom Tue 18-Mar-14 21:16:11

unless she has a child with him its a fair point he is her ex his opinion doesnt matter

Famzilla Tue 18-Mar-14 21:16:33

Eww. What an odd and incredibly cringe-worthy thing to say.

ParsleyTheLioness Tue 18-Mar-14 21:16:58

It would suggest to me that he is still trying to control her....I wouldn't take it literally.

AnyFucker Tue 18-Mar-14 21:17:28

it's not you

WooWooOwl Tue 18-Mar-14 21:19:50

I would read that as blatant attention seeking and a tasteless airing of dirty laundry in public.

Bearbehind Tue 18-Mar-14 21:19:54

No children.

It just read to me like it was OK for him to impose his opinion on her if he was feeding, fucking or financing her and I just don't get why that gives you such rights.

AnyFucker Tue 18-Mar-14 21:21:00

it doesn't

your friend has some funny ideas about what constitutes a relationship

yep, she might be hurting but it doesn't excuse such thinking, tbh

CuttedUpPear Tue 18-Mar-14 21:22:34

Unpleasant status yes, but I've heard it before, it's been copied from somewhere.

On another note -
Why are you not a feminist, OP - do you not believe that women should be treated equally to men?

Onesleeptillwembley Tue 18-Mar-14 21:23:27

That's just trashy and vulgar.

fraggleland Tue 18-Mar-14 21:24:15

why aren't you a feminist? Would you prefer women to not be equal to men? Yes your friends status was silly, but no sillier than you saying you are effectively against women being equals.

AnyFucker Tue 18-Mar-14 21:24:28

feminist or not, that kind of shit does nothing for the general respect of women

fraggleland Tue 18-Mar-14 21:25:27

xpost with cuttedup.

wishful75 Tue 18-Mar-14 21:25:58

I find it more concerning when a woman states they are not a feminist....

daisychain01 Tue 18-Mar-14 21:26:25

Hmmm, classy status confused

NoodleOodle Tue 18-Mar-14 21:27:18

I find it more odd that you openly admit to not being a feminist.

MargotLovedTom Tue 18-Mar-14 21:27:38

Yes, very classy.

BumpyGrindy Tue 18-Mar-14 21:29:15

It could be that he is bossing her about financially...with no right to...perhaps it's actually a line he's said to her in the past.... "I'm feeding you and financing have to do as I say" type of thing.

Bearbehind Tue 18-Mar-14 21:31:05

Me being a feminist or not is not the point of this.

I don't believe you should be treated differently, positively or negatively, just because of your gender but I did think this status was condoning the 'men owning women' idea.

Lj8893 Tue 18-Mar-14 21:31:36

I've seen this status too, don't think its the same person as the person I saw post it has a child with her ex.

I also had hmm face when I saw it, but then like others have posted already I also had hmm that face when you said your not a feminist?! Bizarre.

Lj8893 Tue 18-Mar-14 21:33:06

Sorry x post.

From what you have just said, it appears that actually you are a feminist!

wishful75 Tue 18-Mar-14 21:33:13

So you are actually a feminist then....

LizSurly Tue 18-Mar-14 21:33:32

Yeh! Be a feminist for godssake

Bearbehind Tue 18-Mar-14 21:35:18

Ok, bad choice of words- sorry. The point of my post still stands though- why would you let yourself be defined by who fucked, fed and financed you?

AnyFucker Tue 18-Mar-14 21:38:57

I think lots of women don't actually understand feminism. They think it is about not shaving your legs, eschewing lipstick and hating men.

Anyway, like OP said, this thread isn't about that, other than the FB status quoted is spectacularly non-feminist smile

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