To think my dd is a sell out!

(54 Posts)
Cigarettesandsmirnoff Thu 06-Mar-14 21:10:18

Dd is nearly ten months old.

She is obsessed with her dad - calls him 'Gad'. She is yet to utter anything that resembles 'mama, mum'. He plays with her for one hour in the morning then sods off to work returning when she is in bed.

I have to do night wakes because if she realises it's him, she shrieks and starts laughing.

I really enjoy my baby, do baby groups, we read, go park , I crawl round living room chasing her - loads of fun stuff. But when dp is here I don't get a look in sad

Sat and Sunday are spent crawlng up his legs, on his shoulders, waiting outside toilet or trying to get in bath with him. We have just been out in the car and she spent the entire time gazing at him while he was driving. I really felt a pang of jealousy blush sad

Why does she like hm more than me?! I'm well better!

at least I get snotty open mouthed kisses

Honestly? Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Id take one of those weekend days back and have a You Day grin she clearly wont mind you going off out aloneto meet with friends, shop, get drunk go to the pictures or for a swim...

TwittyMcTwitterson Thu 06-Mar-14 21:13:06

My DD just started this. She now says 'not you mummy' when I talk to her and 'go away'/'go your room mummy'

They really are swines!!!

Cigarettesandsmirnoff Thu 06-Mar-14 21:16:04

eves that's awful , oh god I'd be really upset ha ha. Little monkey!!

myname I went out last sat for a few hours and I got in just after her bed time and she was flat out literately snoring her head off - clearly I'm not needed!

TheArmadillo Thu 06-Mar-14 21:23:24

They go through phases of preferring one person over another. In a while it will be your turn as flavour of the month and you will long for the days when you could leave her with daddy grin

My dh is a sahp and has been dd's main carer since the day she was born. She is a mummy's girl when I am home but is not bothered when I am out. If dh goes out she gets very confused and can't understand it. She often goes round the house looking for him. Not upset but perplexed. She doesn't need to cling to dh or follow him round or demand his attention all the time because he is always there, a constant presence, so not effort is needed with him wink

Cigarettesandsmirnoff Thu 06-Mar-14 21:28:55

theArmadillo your take on it is much better, that's what 'must' be happen g here grin

morethanpotatoprints Thu 06-Mar-14 21:30:09

It's because you are with her most, that's all.
I think both sexes are the same for this, both our sons and dd were like this.
Just keep saying mum to her all day, she'll soon have it as default grin
The time you need to watch is when she is older and she either tries to play you and dh against each other, flutters her eye lashes at him and wraps him round her little finger. They can be little manipulative monsters if you let them.
My dd has tried this for years, I don't know why it is in her nature. I'm not at all like that, sometimes I wish I could be but its just not me.

stargirl1701 Thu 06-Mar-14 21:34:47

My DD is the same. It's been 18 months of Dada. No sign of Mama being wanted yet. I'm not allowed to kiss or cuddle DH without her trying to push me away grin We are due DC2 in Aug and I don't think she'll bat an eyelid until DH holds the baby.

It's a good thing she's cute! grin

QueenofKelsingra Thu 06-Mar-14 21:38:38

all 3 of mine are the same, poor DH gets mauled when he comes in the door!

however the minute one of them is hurt or ill, only mummy will do.

a non-SAHP has an almost novelty feature to small DC, its new and exciting as they don't see them as much. As a SAHP you are there the whole time, they know you are always there and that you will still be there when the working parent goes away again.

don't take it personally. I usually sit quietly with a cup of tea while DH attempts to wrangle them all!

charleyturtle Thu 06-Mar-14 21:41:43

I seem to be right at the bottom of DDs affections. I was talking to my mum in the car yesterday and said that I thought dd loved dh more. Dd piped up with "and cats" I said "and cats? you love cats more than mummy?" She says "Yeah, and cheese"

So just feel glad your kids don't love cheese more than you.

QueenofKelsingra Thu 06-Mar-14 21:44:03

anyone remember the 'daddy or chips' advert?? this thread reminds me of it smile

CustardOmlet Thu 06-Mar-14 21:45:13

When I picked DS up today after work, he saw me, shrieked with glee then ran in the other direction to hug his Euan the sheep. I'm lower than a smelly soft toy!

Frusso Thu 06-Mar-14 21:46:10

I have 2 dds and a ds. Dds were both daddy mad, and still are. Dd1 was very vocal about daddy being her favourite. And dd2 didn't say mummy until she was 4, I honestly was the other daddy to her. sad
Ds is yet to utter mum or dad.
Unfortunately for daddy this time round he's just not good enough for ds. A short cuddle is okay before ds moans to come back to me.
<does a victory dance>
<<realises I cant even go for a wee without ds wanting to come with me>>

Martorana Thu 06-Mar-14 21:46:15

My ds once gazed up at me and said "oh, I love you, mummy!" I obviously melted and was about to say something suitably soppy when he carried on "but I love daddy, Dace [his name for his big sister] and the kittens more"
sad

whitepuddingsupper Thu 06-Mar-14 21:55:28

My DD was just the same, such a daddy's girl
Until she turned 3 and started pre school, I think some time apart has gained a new appreciation of mummy and now I'm the favourite.

Cigarettesandsmirnoff Thu 06-Mar-14 21:57:54

Such cruel, cutting remarks out of the mouths of babes!

charlie I already know dd loves cheese more than me. Grated cheese is her fave. sad

Tbf nobody comes before a watsit!

I do wonder if it's a gender thing? Can babies be aware of it??

EverythingCounts Thu 06-Mar-14 22:00:39

They say Dad or some variant earlier anyway, because it's an easier sound to make. Unfair I know! Also, as TheArmadillo says, they go through phases. I was chopped liver for ages and then it flipped and I was worshipped like a goddess. smile No clear reason why it changed at the point it did, it just happened.

Nerfmother Thu 06-Mar-14 22:01:08

Eveesmummy I'm really sorry but I can't stop sniggering. 'Go your room mummy' I think my heart would break!

Hoppinggreen Thu 06-Mar-14 22:09:17

Doesn't get any better. On valentines day,y 5 year old son came put of school and handed me a valentines card he had made. He said that he had made it especially - for a Daddy!!!
My 9 year old daughter loves me more I'm sure !!

cathpip Thu 06-Mar-14 22:09:24

My delightful dd is an utter daddies girl. "I just love my daddy, he is my best friend", "no go away mummy, I love my daddy, not you". She is 3, she won't love her daddy when she is 17 and wanting to go down the pub wearing a belt for a skirt!! smile

Hoppinggreen Thu 06-Mar-14 22:09:40

Daddy not A daddy!!

chattychattyboomba Thu 06-Mar-14 22:16:21

Hehe... When I pick up DD from nursery she's all "oh hey mum...yeah, cool, just a sec I'm just playing....where's daddy? Oh you bought me a treat...cool...that's nice, I'll just talk about how I'm going to share it with daddy the whole way home"
When DH picks her up "DADDDDYYYY AAAARRRRGGGGHHHHH!!" (Screaming, and then completely overwhelmed she actually starts crying with joy...imagine elation and tears and stroking his face in adoration...she practically pees herself with excitement)

Cigarettesandsmirnoff Thu 06-Mar-14 22:29:22

Ha ha ha chatty . We must be so fucking dull.

My DD 2.10 is going through a phase of telling me every single morning "Daddy my best friend... Not you" with a smile on her face.
Then she orders me to look upset by pointing at me and shouting "SAD. NOW" and saying "no happy mummy" if I'm smiling.
How depressing!

Cigarettesandsmirnoff Thu 06-Mar-14 22:38:29

always sad flowers

Jesus ladies, us mums get the shitty end of the stick or what!

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