I've been at my workplace for around 10 months now, when I first started this guy asked me to be his date for a work event. I apologised and said that actually I wasn't going but thanks for asking. He was quite nice up until that point and from then on we have just clashed.
I would never speak to him about personal things about my life but he decided to say I was mardy and that's why I didn't have a man (I was with someone at that point so just shows how he doesn't know me). That we were having a group conversation, I asked a really basic ordinary question and he turned to me and said - "who's involving you?" just to make people laugh at how blunt he was.
Said another rude comment about me to the point that it made 3 women colleagues who overheard him pull this face - . Logged into the new starters computer (when I was off work) and sent an email to me saying that he had missed me,I was pretty and he really liked me. I definitely don't think I'm pretty at all but ... the email was not an obvious joke, and I replied back that it was nice of him to say that. Which then made newstarter realise he was hacked - thus making it very awkward between us.
He also said a really vulgar comment about me being desperate for sex. At that point I got up and went to the toilet and just cried. That is the only time I have ever cried at work.
And honestly I can take a joke and don't want to come across as a sensitive soul. I can take banter and jokes about myself when it's done in good humour but I just can't see the funny side of his actions towards me.
There is an empty desk next to me and for the last month he has been threatening to move there, I have made it very clear to him and the assistant manager that I don't want that to happen (there are other free desks). My manager had been off since Christmas, came back and moved him. I literally came this week and he had moved.
I literally can't take it and I'm so unhappy being sat there. My manger is well aware of this and today we had a one to one session (everyone had one) and then she asked was I coping, I said not really. I asked if he could be moved to the other spare desk just 3 down from where he is now sat and was told that no this in unfair on him.
Aibu to think I was sat there first and I shouldn't have to put up with his behaviour like this and be made to feel upset and down every time I come into work?
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to think it's unfair this guy has been given the desk next to me?
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AroundTheGlobe · 07/02/2014 20:30
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