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To not send my son to school in pyjamas?

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Throughthelongnight Thu 14-Nov-13 13:19:57

My son came home yesterday and said that they had been told to wear pyjamas to school on Friday, but he wasn't sure why.

He is not at all happy about this and has asked not to go in on that day.

I suspect it is for Children in need. I talked with him yesterday, and am sure it is due to his nocturnal enuresis, that he would feel uncomfortable in nightwear, although he hasn't said as much.

I have suggested buying new pyjamas, as his current ones are getting a little small, or borrowing his brothers (much coverted) angry bird ones. I have also suggested wearing jogging trousers and a tshirt instead, but he is adamant that he doesn't want to go.

He loves school, so I am sure this is not just a ploy to get out of going, and he was very upset.

So aibu to just keep him at home, and should I tell them why, or just invent a sore throat?

squeakytoy Thu 14-Nov-13 13:21:50

how old is he?

has he not got jogging bottoms and a sweatshirt that you can say are pyjamas

I think he will end up feeling left out on the day if all his friends take part and he is the odd one out

kinkyfuckery Thu 14-Nov-13 13:22:10

If he doesn't want to wear PJs, then let him wear something else. I wouldn't keep him off for no reason though.

loopylouu Thu 14-Nov-13 13:22:24

It's for children in need and it's optional.

My ds would rather die than go in in pyjamas, his school does it every year and he's never joined in (his school is non uniform though, so it's not like not wearing the unifor is a treat).

Madlizzy Thu 14-Nov-13 13:22:35

Does he think that he'll have to go to sleep in school and risk wetting? Kids can worry about the strangest things.

littlewhitebag Thu 14-Nov-13 13:22:43

Could he just wear his pyjama top with normal trousers? I am sure they won't turn him away if he just goes in normal clothes. Or he could 'forget' and go in his uniform. There are always kids who forget on non uniform days.

Surely he can go in uniform?
My Ds' school are doing the same thing but have stated that any child may go in wearing uniform if they wish to.
It's a special needs school so they understand that some children need/want the routine.
Toad looked at me like I had 2 heads and told me that Pyjamas are for bed, uniform is for school!

BrandybuckCurdlesnoot Thu 14-Nov-13 13:23:07

Or send him in normal non uniform. He probably won't be the only one. I wouldn't keep him off. Our school are having a PJ/Onesie day for Children in Need to. Mine are going in thick zip up onesies but I know some are going in normal clothes because they don't want to wear PJs plus onesies for little girls needing the toilet would be a nightmare.

notagiraffe Thu 14-Nov-13 13:23:52

Would he be prepared to go in a onesie? That's what lots of children at DCs primary did. Looked very cute and was less embarrassing than their real PJs.

EdithWeston Thu 14-Nov-13 13:24:33

I think he needs to go to school.

He can arrive in uniform (or whatever he usually wears if no uniform), and take a bag with T-shirt/joggers and pyjamas so he can change if he wants to when he sees what others are wearing.

LadyVetinari Thu 14-Nov-13 13:25:15

Jeans/joggers, t-shirt, and a dressing gown that he can discard because he's "too warm" as soon a he gets into the classroom?

Quenelle Thu 14-Nov-13 13:25:35

A girl in DS's class doesn't want to go in pyjamas either. So her mum is sending her in uniform with some spare clothes in case she feels left out and changes her mind.

It's for charity so completely voluntary. He can still pay the £1 or whatever it is so nobody should have a problem with it.

I would send him in uniform but put some pyjamas in his bag incase he feels left out once he gets there

MadamNoo Thu 14-Nov-13 13:25:47

we have pyjama day tomorrow too. my middle son hates and detests all dressing up days, he is dyspraxic (not sure if that is relevant but I think it's connected) and hates any kind of attention or standing out - uniform is his friend. I have said he can go to school in uniform, I won't have any more stress and unhappiness about something that's supposed to be fun. there will always be some kids who forget so he won't be the odd one out.
unnecessary to keep him home I think, but he doesn't have to join in (and you can still give teh £1 for charity if you like)

monicalewinski Thu 14-Nov-13 13:27:02

I hate the pyjama days too, ok when they were nursery age but a bit daft when they're older.

Maybe he could be persuaded by new pyjamas (angry birds?), but if a definite 'no' then I probably wouldn't force it tbh.

ShatnersBassoon Thu 14-Nov-13 13:27:44

It's optional. If he doesn't want to, no problem. Lots of children won't want to, lots will forget. It's definitely not a reason to keep him home.

Slavetominidictator Thu 14-Nov-13 13:28:19

The school I teach in has about three of four non uniform days a year where kids pay a pound to come without uniform. In the past, pyjamas were suggested instead, after complaints about competitive dressing so perhaps that's the reason. I think it's children in need this week so that may be why...
Honestly, the kids are so hyper and can't settle to work properly that I don't think your son would miss much if he didn't go in, except he will miss out on the social side. I would be a bit worried about setting a precedent but that depends on how frequently the school has them. I thought your idea about his brother's pyjamas was a a very good one. Honestly, one day off won't harm him, but don't tell the school why - attendance officers often aren't entirely discreet or understanding, although of course there will be exceptions. Good luck deciding.

justmatureenough2bdad Thu 14-Nov-13 13:28:22

send him in his uniform and a note saying he doesn't wear pyjamas and it would not be appropriate to send him in naked...

He does not need to wear the pj's
Send him to school
It's a silly reason not too

gamerchick Thu 14-Nov-13 13:28:58

He doesn't have to wear PJ'S there's no way mine would leave the house like that.. I always send him in his uniform but still take the quid in for the pot.

Throughthelongnight Thu 14-Nov-13 13:29:24

Thanks for your replies. He is 11, I suggested a onesie, but he didn't like that idea.

I guess I agree that he should go, but this is really out of character, and I just can't get to the bottom of why he feels so uncomfortable with the idea.

Slavetominidictator Thu 14-Nov-13 13:31:41

I was assuming secondary school, for some reason, apologies if primary - am sure it's different. In secondary, turning up in uniform on non uniform days is social suicide, I'm afraid, hence my suggesting a discreet day at home.....

I may be underestimating your son but he does know it means PJ's OVER underwear, and not just PJ's doesn't he?

I quite often shove underwear on even if slobbing around in PJs at home, as I don't feel that comfortable walking around 'undressed'.

ShatnersBassoon Thu 14-Nov-13 13:32:12

Why not call the school and ask for some clarification? Ask if sportswear would be a suitable alternative.

farrowandbawl Thu 14-Nov-13 13:34:31

DS is like this.

He want's to wear his uniform instead. He's never got involved with anything like this and neither have I - it's just one of thsoe things we just don't do.

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