AIBU to think I got dumped?

(69 Posts)
DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 13:22:37

Feeling pissed off so bring it on AIBU.

Been dating for 3 months. Last time I saw him was last Wed/ Thurs morning. Thurs eve sent him a text apologising (leaked in his mattress) and saying to let me know about the next (now this) week.

Usually would've heard something by Mon the latest. Nada. So Tues eve I texted: 'Oh dear, not even a text this week... X'. He read it an hour later at 8pm. Nada.

This morning I sent a pissy text that if he doesn't want to speak to someone than maybe let them know, esp. If they (I) are the people who like him.

At the beginning he was more into me and after a while I thought, yeah let's give it a go. So I thought we were on the same page.

He is extremely busy at work and has different sports in the evenings, which makes me pissed off he manages to do everything but spare 10 secs to text me.

Dahlen Thu 10-Oct-13 14:55:28

If he's just stopped contacting you with no preceding explanation, he is an arse and you are better off without him. I know it's hard to go through and that it will take some time for your emotions to catch up with your head, but just keep telling yourself you had a lucky escape.

FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 10-Oct-13 14:57:46

He isnt behaving well.

Just take the moral high ground and don't send him passive aggressive texts but ignore him..is my.advice.

Hope you meet someone nicer.

MrsLouisTheroux Thu 10-Oct-13 14:58:30

"Oh dear, not even a text this week..."
Ok, if not sarky, passive agressive.
Either way, he's being unkind and should have contacted you.

MrsLouisTheroux Thu 10-Oct-13 14:59:04

Xpost fanjo

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 15:03:24

I am gobsmacked that he just left it like that. Very self-assured, no problems with speaking his mind mind, always very polite. If he wanted to end it, I see no reason he couldn't just say it.

In fact in the beginning I was not happy with something and said or was not working for me and then he said he hoped I would find someone who'll make me happy and he was sorry it was not him.

There's no way I expected this!

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 15:08:48

I think suspecting a faulty iPhone is clutching at straws. Yes, he does have one, that's how I knew he read my texts. It is also highly unlikely someone else has his phone. He could've emailed me or call/ text from his other phone or his office. Just a dick I'm afraid. Just about as I thought I was safe with him.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 15:09:31

On the plus side, I just passed Sugar Crush level 23, in which I was stuck for a week. Swings and roundabouts grin

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 15:29:53

Surprised he read them though, my texts that is. Why not delete straight away if he didn't want to engage.

DSM Thu 10-Oct-13 15:44:56

Congratulations on candy crush grin

I don't even know how to delete a text without reading it on my iPhone. As soon as you click into messages, the new text opens up. Only time it doesn't is if you have multiple new messages.

Given he is an asshole, seems unlikely he's got multiple friends sending multiple messages.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 15:54:03

He must have know Thurs morning when I was leaving his. The week before ghat he had said: I'll see you next week, kiss kiss smooch smooch. That thurs he said nothing like that and I thought it was oddhmm. We always made plans for the following week before we parted.

That's why I started to think it maybe was the blood (he's almost OCD) but not enough ocd to not have sex in the period. I must have said or done sth to make his mind up. hmm

Rambling now, but meed to process today and it seems the last 6 days too.

DSM Thu 10-Oct-13 15:59:02

Actually, an ex once broke up with me because I got my period through the night and left some blood on the sheets.

I woke up, saw it, stripped the bed but didn't have time to do anything else before I left, as there was already a wash on that he must have done before he left.

Maybe some people are just really funny about periods.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 16:21:46

If he were so paranoid about it he would've put the towel in but I guess he was too caught up in waiting to get his dick wet.

I said I was sorry as I didn't organise a towel thinking it was just spotting (kind of brownish, constant 7 day spotting; thanks microgynon). No idea if that's what freaked him out but just no idea what else. Happy to dip his cock in thoughhmm

MDK Thu 10-Oct-13 16:30:47

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 14:50:26

It wasn't a sarky text.

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As a guy I can tell you I'd take that as sarky, bitchy and attention seeking. I'd avoid you like the plague if that's how you text rather than call..

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 16:36:48

hmm MDK. It was his turn to get in contact. He didn't ai assumed he was too busy. The text was me being disappointed. Thought it was ok to express one's feelings. He almost never used to call me. So what's your beef with my text. Are you implying you can dump someone on such basis. Nice. Either way, the problem is he didn't communicated it neither in person or by text or by telegram, email or a tweethmm

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 16:38:59

Plus he would say things similarly such as: oh, no kiss today? Normal chat, I'd say.

Not normal is going awol on someone you've been seeing and keeping a contact with for the last 3 months.

HaroldLloyd Thu 10-Oct-13 16:45:27

Sorry I agree it was a bit snarky.

If you think he's not going to get in touch again then it's a pissy way to end things with someone, but if at all possible just ignore him.

Sinful1 Thu 10-Oct-13 16:46:14

No offenses but he might have just had a bit of a busy weekend but been intending to get back in touch but then got a text saying "oh dear not even a text this week" immediately makes him think you're going to be a clingy controlling bitch.

And you seem to already hate his guts so guys probably dodged a bullet and isn't getting back in touch because he doesn't want to engage the psycho further

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 16:52:16

Yes, I'm a psycho. You should offer your services to the NHS, with all that diagnosing through a screen.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 16:53:15

So i should just wait like a good little woman till he deigns me with his divine attention? Now that's sarky.

HaroldLloyd Thu 10-Oct-13 16:55:41

No one is saying that OP. but what's the point of sending angry texts?

It's either some sort of misunderstanding, in which case he will get put off, OR

He's a knob, in which case don't stoke his ego.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 17:07:10

I just wanted to meet a bloke that likes me and I like him. I ran 2 businesses, have a toddler and am busy too. But clearly not that busy as not to spare few secs for. Text once or twice a week. Without fail we would text and see each other once a week on average so yes, I found it strabge that abruptly stopped.

Why shouldn't I enquire? I won't anymore. He did just call but I'm working and need to compose myself before calling back.

Either way, I think a bloke who cannot find a spare minute for me in a whole week is simply not interested.

HaroldLloyd Thu 10-Oct-13 17:09:41

I wouldn't want a boyfriend who didn't text or get in touch with me fairly regularly, so that's fair enough.

Rather than feeling dumped looked at it this way, he wasn't giving you what you wanted and you make the decision not to bother with him any more.

So your actually dumping him.

HaroldLloyd Thu 10-Oct-13 17:11:36

I just think that people that are like this with partners get some sort of kick from being chased, you've only sent two texts, that's not so bad, but I would now delete his number.

Dump and delete.

I think you know when someone isn't as interested as you would like, I always have.

Rosencrantz Thu 10-Oct-13 17:15:50

He's just not that into you. He'd be texting if he was.

Get over it, move on, stop wasting your energy on someone not worthwhile.

DSM Thu 10-Oct-13 17:20:57

No idea what that sudden pasting was about, OP you are still, I maintain, in the right. He is an arse. Any man that decides after 3 months that he's 'just not they into you' and can't even be bothered to text you to let you know, is an arse.

Your texts weren't snarky, psycho hmm, nor are you, in any way coming across as a clingy! controlling bitch.

sinful - you are being really nasty. You sound like you have issues.

I like what haroldloyd said!

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