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to get wound up with people going on about being pregnant

(52 Posts)
JRmumma Fri 27-Sep-13 09:30:44

Now i know i could just remove or hide these people on fb, but it really winds me up in rl too when pregnant women go on relentlessly about the fact that they are pregnant or about pregnancy related ailments etc. For example this morning ive seen a status update on how many times one person got up in the night to wee, one with a back ache, and one who hasn't been offered a seat on the train. OK WE GET IT, YOU ARE PREGNANT! WELL DONE!

It may sound a bit harsh but i just don't understand why we need relentless updates. I know they are excited and all that, ive got a 7 week old so i have a very fresh memory about how exciting it all is, but for everyone else it gets boring really quickly. I used to get sick of people continuously asking me how i was and expecting a pregnancy update when i was pregnant, and loved it when people ignored the fact i was expecting and spoke to me like an actual person, not a baby growing vessel.

Is it too much to ask that women realise the world doesnt revolve around their pregnancy and that everyone else is just getting on with their lives??????

Lottapianos Fri 27-Sep-13 09:36:57

You may be slightly U but actually I feel the same! I guess for that woman, her pregnancy is the most important thing in the universe so I get why she might want to talk about it all the time, but I also get why its very irritating

NotYoMomma Fri 27-Sep-13 09:39:58

I just fb what is on my mind so like you said, just hide it!

it just so happens what is on my mind recently is varicous veins, a nameless baby and sciatica.

previous month it was about my weekend away etc etc.

it doesn't really affect you does it?

Well, her world is currently revolving around her pregnancy, so her sense of perspective is skewed by that. The fact that you weren't like that doesn't prove anything - pretty much everything other people do I could say "Well. I don't do that", but they are them and you are you.

Just smile and nod and don't engage if you don't want to hear chapter and verse. And maybe accept that you'll be doing the same about some aspect of your life that they have no interest in either.

AngelsLieToKeepControl Fri 27-Sep-13 09:42:17

Yabu, it's an exciting time. I'm not sure updating fb is expecting the world to revolve around their pregnancies either.

I bet you did it as well when you were pregnant wink

YABVU. It's her FB page to update about her life. You know what to do if you don't like it. I don't suppose they're that fussed about reading your updates either, fascinating though they must be...

Yes I'm being narky but I can't bear FB moaners.

CoffeeTea103 Fri 27-Sep-13 09:43:45

You sound miserable, just because you were not like that doesn't mean other people shouldn't be.

gordyslovesheep Fri 27-Sep-13 09:44:40

ya only NBU if you don't post constantly about your life and your baby -

Your 'friends' are posting about the things that are going on for them - defriend them if you don't want to see it

CakeBotherer Fri 27-Sep-13 09:44:55

I get annoyed about people who bang on about all the holidays/trips they have taken, yet if I were able to go on holiday I'm sure I'd keep banging on about it.

It's easy to get wrapped up in your immediate situation (and pregnancy is life changing) and forget about how other people are feeling. Also people asking you about your pregnancy aren't mind readers. They may not really have wanted to ask/know, but felt you may have been insulted if they were perceived NOT to care.

So um, while I get your point, YABU sorry.

JRmumma Fri 27-Sep-13 09:45:32

They were 3 different women! They are all at it!

The train one was the most annoying though, so entitled! Just ASK if you need to sit down, if you are ok standing then just stand! You are pregnant, not ill! I know she is still physically able as this particular woman still mucks out her horse and goes to the gym. Its just an excuse to remind everyone that she is preggars.

Its not just fb though, that's just an example, alot of pregnant women are also such pregnancy bores in rl.

DidoTheDodo Fri 27-Sep-13 09:46:23

I agree.
Particularly hurtful to me and mine as we had a lost baby a few months ago and it just feels deeply thoughtless. I know it is exciting but even so....

jimijack Fri 27-Sep-13 09:46:30

If you had said that you had just miscarried or had fertility issues then I would have said with sympathy yanbu, BUT I'm not because you are not.

You are being crabby & irritated.

it is just all part of pregnancy & social media.

Hide it if it bugs you so much, have some chocolate & a brew & accept that this is how folk cope.

JRmumma Fri 27-Sep-13 09:49:03

And no, nothing about my pregnancy or baby on fb. Without getting into the whole argument about what fb is for and people can use it as they wish, it was just an example about the constant updates. Not necessarily status updates.

gamerchick Fri 27-Sep-13 09:52:10

Everybody has a pet hate on Facebook and I've noticed it's usually people who mostly on only post about one topic. May it be pregnancy.. kids.. what they're feeding their faces with complete with pictures... animal rights complete with desensitising videos and pictures etc etc everybody has one irritation.

But the option to hide or adjust what you see from that person is a wonderful thing grin

Nanny0gg Fri 27-Sep-13 09:53:56

I'm assuming your FB updates are riveting and of interest to all your friends?

bicyclefish Fri 27-Sep-13 09:54:34

you should be happy for them and just skim past their trivial blurb, or change the settings to only show important updates (like when the baby actually arrives?!) or simply remove the posts from your timeline.
you kinda know what you sign up for with FB and, contrary to popular belief, youcan tweek it quite a bit to you own person tastes.

AngelsLieToKeepControl Fri 27-Sep-13 09:54:53

Is it really so bad to take 5 seconds to read a message, or spend 10 minutes talking about an exciting and life changing part of a friends life?

weddingballs Fri 27-Sep-13 09:58:10

YANBU. What is really getting my goat at the moment is pregnant people who don't look very preg yet but think they do. You know, one hand in the small of their back supporting their non existant bump and one hand rubbing their non belly, all at 12 weeks.

The next 6months will b unbearable

I might do a AIBU about that lol

BillyGoatintheBuff Fri 27-Sep-13 09:59:57

Be careful criticising others for being boring, I hope you are the worlds most interesting person in the world! Not everything interests everyone. And apparently according to mn you have to watch what words you use all the time in case they make someone else stabby hmm

JRmumma Fri 27-Sep-13 10:01:51

I think you are right gamerchick. I do quite like the food ones though, gives me dinner ideas!

I very rarely write a status on fb, and its never anything personal. But then im quite a private person apart from with my family and real life friends.

JRmumma Fri 27-Sep-13 10:04:55

Weddingballs - snap!

Its not a fb thing though people! Its an annoyance of when someone thinks they are the only people in the world to have experienced something. Be it pregnancy, a holiday, buying a house, whatever.

bebopanddoowop Fri 27-Sep-13 10:15:39

Yes though I find it just as annoying people constantly updating you on their children's life/progress when they're finally born, too.

I found the constant pregnancy moaning most difficult when we were ttc, I just wanted to shout 'you should be GRATEFUL'! Now I am pregnant I only really tell my husband about all my ailments (unless I'm asked) 'cos I think it's important he shares it with me and what's going on inside me how his child goes about growing! I wouldn't go announcing to my friends how often I puke 'cos why would they wanna know?

bebopanddoowop Fri 27-Sep-13 10:17:32

JRmumma you are right - when people talk about mortgages and stuff I want to shout I KNOW I HAVE ONE TOO AND ITS BORING

amber381 Fri 27-Sep-13 10:25:56

Ha, I am due in about a week and haven't put anything on FB about it or told many people (live overseas) because I don't want to annoy people as I also find it annoying looking at pictures of other people's big bellies and updates etc! All being well with the baby I expect I will post something when she is born!

Dobbiesmum Fri 27-Sep-13 10:29:50

Are you sure you didn't do the same when pg? grin
I didn't think I did but looking back I did a hell of a lot of moaning about heartburn for the last few months of my last pregnancy, it makes me blush a bit as I don't post up very much now, just linking music I'm listening to or chatty stuff every so often.

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