Is it ok to buy presents 2nd hand?

(26 Posts)
ghostspirit Thu 19-Sep-13 17:10:12

I often buy 2nd hand for my children for birthday and xmas. well its bit of a mix the big presents such as a bike would be 2nd hand, but then things that dont cost to much would be new. i buy clothes a mix of 2nd hand and new. for my 3 year old 99% of her things are 2nd hand.

SoonToBeSix Thu 19-Sep-13 17:12:35

Yes of course I get around lots of my dc's presents from eBay or charity shops last Christmas.

kinkyfuckery Thu 19-Sep-13 17:13:23

Gifts for your own children, yes. Gifts for someone else, I'd have to find out how they felt about it.

TessTackle Thu 19-Sep-13 17:13:54

I definitely don't see anything wrong with this! My DD's main present this year is a second hand wooden kitchen which I got for £50 instead of the rrp of £170 thrifty is nifty!

BrokenSunglasses Thu 19-Sep-13 17:15:37

For your own children, of course it's ok! For other people, I wouldn't.

aliciaflorrick Thu 19-Sep-13 17:15:50

Yes of course it is. If it's something they want or need they're not going to notice or care that it's been used before. My DCs actually know not to expect me to buy things like computer games new, or even things like iPods - they all come second hand in this house.

DS2 has very few items of clothes that haven't been handed down to him from DS1 or other friends.

In my experience children either grow out of things quickly or don't look after them properly, so second hand is fine.

I'm even considering given second hand as gifts to the children of friends and family this year, normally I would buy new, but money is tight and once the wrapping paper is off on Christmas morning it doesn't matter whether it's first, second or third hand.

PeterParkerSays Thu 19-Sep-13 17:19:19

I do for DS and for others if it's something they'd appreciate - 1950s knitting patterns, 2nd hand copy of an out of print book or a board game DH had as a child etc.

Probably not clothes though for adults, just books and nick nacks.

ghostspirit Thu 19-Sep-13 17:20:15

the youngest dont know its 2nd hand the others do. i have to say to them if you have it new you will only get the one present and not anything else at all. not even pound shop stuff. and they seem to be ok with it.

i dont think i would buy 2nd hand for non family but then i dont buy for others anyway... but if i did it would be cheap and cherful like just something thats say 5.00-10.00 at most

spindlyspindler Thu 19-Sep-13 17:24:29

OP, the best Christmas I remember was a Christmas where I got a whole box of carefully selected secondhand books. I still have most of them. My mother was really surprised because that was the year where money was tight and she felt she was short-changing me.

My OH's family are very thrifty/environmentally minded and will happily exchange second hand gifts. If I found the right thing for someone I would hope they'd like it whether it was second hand or not (unless it was pants which I admit is where I would draw the line). Definitely not shortchangy. Hurrah for reusing things!

TheDetective Thu 19-Sep-13 17:25:28

I have just spent £50 on various toys on eBay for my soon to be 1 year old. They will be split between christmas and his birthday. I will buy some things new as I will be unable to get them second hand.

I see it as perfect sense - I have an 11 year old who costs far more, but will have less to open come christmas day hmm. Mind you, all his xbox games are second hand. As was his computer. I am going to get him a laptop for his birthday next year as he is going in to a smaller bedroom, and will need the space that the PC takes up. That will be second hand too.

I'm not made of money. Unfortunately.

I don't buy second hand for others though. Just my children and my partner.

bearleftmonkeyright Thu 19-Sep-13 17:27:05

Without question it is fine, even Father Christmas brings second hand bikes, unfortunately he left me and DP the job of cleaning the wheels with an old toothbrush on Christmas Eve to give it that wow factor!

missmarplestmarymead Thu 19-Sep-13 17:27:14

I would love a Georgian writing slope and I guess it will have to be at least second hand.

CaptainCapybara Thu 19-Sep-13 17:29:01

YANBU, my 2 year old got a large happyland playset with loads of figures for christmas last year and plays with it all the time, makes no difference to her that it cost £5 on a facebook selling page and not £40 from early learning centre.

bearleftmonkeyright Thu 19-Sep-13 17:29:50

My Nan used to give me all kinds of weird and wonderful stuff that was second hand for presents and a lot of it I still have. Funny bits of jewellery, a book on wild flowers, ornaments. I loved it grin

fuzzpig Thu 19-Sep-13 17:34:38

I think it's great as long as it is in decent condition (eg a board game needs all its pieces). DH made an expensive mistake getting laptops on ebay for DSDs, they were awful and I was annoyed (he was embarrassed too, though DSDs were lovely about it)

Normally DH gets great stuff on ebay though, like thunderbirds/captain scarlet etc which DS adores - his old captain scarlet outfit cost 3 quid and went down much better than any new superhero/disney outfit would!

We often get books second hand too, it is necessary if they are out of print!

fuzzpig Thu 19-Sep-13 17:35:50

Ah but bearleft, did he clean it with a second hand toothbrush grin

bearleftmonkeyright Thu 19-Sep-13 17:37:37

Failed there fuzzpig grin

DaleyBump Thu 19-Sep-13 17:38:27

For your own kids and very close family - fine! For others, I wouldn't personally.

expatinscotland Thu 19-Sep-13 17:39:36

Of course it is! Anyone have any Power Rangers figures to flog?

Lilicat1013 Thu 19-Sep-13 17:54:45

I do a mixture of second hand and new for Christmas, depends what I am looking for and what my budget is.

I don't tend to do secondhand for other people unless I know they are ok with it but I am happy to receive secondhand gifts. My family and I all do Amazon Wishlists and a lot of them items on mine and my husbands are only available secondhand. On the kids wishlists I add notes to the toy would be equally loved new or secondhand so people know they can go for the secondhand option if they prefer.

Beechview Thu 19-Sep-13 18:11:34

I regularly buy 'pre-owned' books and xbox and ds games.
I have bought for my niece and nephew too but wouldn't for anyone else.

I think it's fine. However if you were my friend I would say to you, if you can't afford much then you don't have to buy anything smile

specialsubject Thu 19-Sep-13 18:15:54

yes of course, Children won't notice anyway.

more fun to buy second-hand, as long as it is working and clean. Less wasteful too.

FadBook Thu 19-Sep-13 18:17:21

Not only is it OK it is very savvy of you grin

ENormaSnob Thu 19-Sep-13 19:05:19

I love second hand stuff.

Got a right haul at an nct sale last week!

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