I work in a pub. It's a nice place, we don't have a lot of regulars in comparison to other pubs, but the ones we do have are friendly, say hi, have a chat, but generally mind their own business.
All except one. One particular regular insists on sitting in the same place, on the busier end of the bar, where he can pass comment on anything and everything any of the staff say to each other, which winds me up, but is probably par for the course. He's middle aged, everyone who works there is in their twenties. FWIW, he also has a partner, who comes in sometimes.
However, the reason he makes me uncomfortable is that he sits there for hours, by himself, leering at all of the female bar staff. I don't know if any of you have ever had to work while someone stares at you constantly, but it is horrible. It's 'just' staring, but all the girls there are on edge while he's there.
What has made it worse is that a new girl, very pretty, very friendly, started recently. One evening, he got even more blotto than usual and started telling her that he had been thinking about her all day, he wanted to have a drink with her, etc, etc, sleaze sleaze sleaze. Aside from "no thank you" she didn't really know what to say. After he left that night, he tried ringing the pub to speak to her again. Next time he came in, he claimed he couldn't remember a thing.
AIBU to want to do something about this guy? Or should I just expect this (no other regular in this pub behaves like this. In the past I have told customers whose behaviour I didn't like to stop, eg addressing me as "baby")? The Assistant Manager has already said that if he 'really' crosses a line, he will be told not to come back, but surely making half the staff incredibly uncomfortable IS crossing a line? I want this new staff member, who was pretty upset by it all, to feel like we're a team that will look out for her, it's a lovely family atmosphere we have among ourselves, and most of our customers, but I think this guy is ruining it for her. Anyone else been in a similar situation? What could I do?
*I realise I've used the term "girls" throughout here to refer to women in their twenties. Sorry if this sounds patronizing, it's how we refer to ourselves though!
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LucySnoweShouldRelax · 30/07/2013 12:52
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