Just a string of small(ish) happenings recently have made me think this - I'm a pretty assertive person myself but some people are so good at manipulating situations to their own advantage that you almost end up going along with it before you realise how selfishly they are acting.
The first situation: I started swimming lessons a few months ago. There were initially 3 of us who paid a private instructor between us. He would come to a pool near my work and it all worked well for ages. One of the group has now had to leave and another woman has taken her place. After her first week I received a text message from the instructor informing me that they had changed the venue and time - the lessons are now too early and too far away from my work for me to get there in time. I phoned the instructor who was it has to be said a little sheepish but he has basically let this new woman manipulate him into changing everything to suit her! And now he's saying to me that I still need to pay him even if don't turn up. I'm going to have to stop the lessons I think.
Other situation: I also dance as a hobby and several friends/acquaintances have said they would love to do a sort of class together. I am in theory happy to do that and wouldn't want to charge money as I'm not a teacher, I just enjoy it and have been doing it long enough that I'm pretty competent. I let everyone know the times I could manage. I have been utterly amazed at all the complaining and trying to change the times and days to suit themselves! Why would people do that when I'm basically doing it as a favour? Anyway we finally found a time and then only one person showed up!
What goes through these people's heads?! Were they all spoilt children or something?
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HenrySugar · 24/04/2013 10:23
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