Easter Eggs

(89 Posts)
Meg8 Sat 30-Mar-13 02:41:22

I am a new granny, and baby is 10 months old. My beloved late dad had a thing about Easter Eggs for kids, so I asked my daughter what egg I should buy the little lad. She was adamant - no egg. Too young. Ridiculous. Unsafe. Unhealthy. I have this dream of seeing his lovely face smeared with chocolate, but it is not to be.

Am I out of date with what mums do now? Is it such a crime for a child to have chocolate at age 10 months? Just a small piece. Will it really ruin his two teeth and his stomach for the rest of his life?

Meg

noblegiraffe Sat 30-Mar-13 02:43:34

Not wanting a 10 month old baby to have chocolate is perfectly reasonable. Wait till he's older.

Tortington Sat 30-Mar-13 02:45:34

10 months is a bit young,

besides if its a precious new born you've got shit all chance of doing anything like this, wait til a few more kids turn up and suddenly you might be flavour of the month

kotinka Sat 30-Mar-13 02:45:55

I understand your feelings but respecting the mum's views will be so helpful in the long run. Wait til next year.

Meg8 Sat 30-Mar-13 02:48:08

Okay. Got the message. I am a bad granny.

AgentZigzag Sat 30-Mar-13 02:48:58

It's not necessarily that it's unsafe/unhealthy, I would give a 10 month old baby a bit of chocolate, it's the sheer mountain of easter eggs people so kindly give the children in their lives which is frightening!

It's lovely you just want to do something your GC might not have experienced before but you know they'd like, and you shouldn't take any offence at your DD saying something.

Surely it's a good thing for her to feel she can say what's on her mind? Much worse for her to not say and it fester until there's one almighty row.

It's OK for her to not want choc for her baby, didn't you speak up if there was something you didn't particularly want for your DC when they were little?

noblegiraffe Sat 30-Mar-13 02:49:11

If you want to get him eggs for Easter, get the Tomy squeaky eggs, they are always a hit.

AgentZigzag Sat 30-Mar-13 02:50:00

Nobody's said you're a bad granny! grin

Don't be s'daft.

AgentZigzag Sat 30-Mar-13 02:51:49

But with mentioning the 'bad granny', has anything happened which has made you feel you don't measure up somehow?

kotinka Sat 30-Mar-13 02:54:13

Meg8 no one is saying you're a bad granny, it's less egotistical than that, because it's not actually about you. At 10 months, mum has the right to determine what baby eats, no one else. Deal with it.

Meg8 Sat 30-Mar-13 02:58:16

I was only going to get a little one, and didn't imagine it would be fed to him in one go. I've never heard of Tomy Squeaky eggs. Not sold in our little village.

There's prob more to this than meets the eye. I ASKED about eggs and got the no go, the other grandparents probably won't ask and will just turn up with one. I feel like a loser already.

This grandparenting experience hasn't been good so far. Am always in the wrong.

kotinka Sat 30-Mar-13 03:02:50

I can relate to this, my dad always feels in the wrong because he's always done all this stuff & it's worked out ok, we're still here ain't we!

But I don't want to smoke 60 bensons in a locked car or feed my kids spuds every say, I want to do things differently, even though I did ok with my upbringing.

So whenever I try to assert MY way, it comes across as critical of HIS way.

All I can say is please let mum make her own parenting decisions and don't take it personally, just be there in case her choices don't quite work out.

Meg8 Sat 30-Mar-13 03:05:27

x

AgentZigzag Sat 30-Mar-13 03:05:48

I'm sorry you always feel to be in the wrong, but if you've taken this decision to be some kind of criticism of you, are you sure you're not just seeing things through that negative lens?

She's probably just trying to save you shelling out for something she's going to eat, which is where her PILs egg will end up.

You're not a loser because this isn't a competition to see who loves the baby the most and who's behaving in the most grandparently manner.

You asked and she said she'd prefer you not to, you sound like you think she should have said yes just to make you feel better.

Would you really have been happy making her feel she can't say how she feels?

WandaDoff Sat 30-Mar-13 03:08:01
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kotinka Sat 30-Mar-13 03:31:30

Absolutely gobsmacked!

Meg8 Sat 30-Mar-13 03:32:05

Thanks for your efforts WandaDoff. The eggs are on Amazon, as an old lady I don't know how to use Amazon and it worries me. But they are 12months+ so there is no way daughter will allow them.

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AgentZigzag Sat 30-Mar-13 03:39:36

You're coming across as pretty prickly Meg.

I was laughing because of the over dramatic way you portrayed both your DD saying she'd rather not have an egg for her DC, and the way you took the first three non-offensive posts as saying you're crap at being a granny.

It was the outrageousness of the drama I was telling you not to be so daft about.

Not sarky or rude, and I was sympathetic before your last post.

And 'waiting for the next bf' is just a total arse of an opinion and thing to say, a lot of posters have grown up children, or even no children at all! shock

AgentZigzag Sat 30-Mar-13 03:41:03

grin at ungrateful baggage though, lovely turn of phrase.

kotinka Sat 30-Mar-13 03:42:22

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AgentZigzag Sat 30-Mar-13 03:46:39

Have to keep an eye out for the DDs thread tomorrow giving her take on what it feels like to have so much pressure on her to obey her mum kotinka.

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