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To be horrified my four year old came home with nail polish ,make up and false lashes on ?

(123 Posts)
BahrainB Fri 08-Mar-13 16:29:09

Gob smacked that a four year olds birthday party warrants a beautician who applied party lashes , full ( we are talking strictly style) make-up and painted the nails of all the tiny dots that attended. This was our first "drop off " party ever and I am just so horrified . What I would have done if I had actually been there , I don't know. Moreover , I am too shocked to say anything . Thank goodness she is heading to the bath before her daddy gets in on a late flight.

Szeli Sat 09-Mar-13 18:40:11

False lashes do, party lashes do not x

valiumredhead Sat 09-Mar-13 17:40:33

They do squeaky

squeakytoy Sat 09-Mar-13 17:35:20

I really do not believe that it took tweezers or was painful for the lashes to come off. I have worn them for years (including as a child when I was in costume for shows), and false lashes just peel off very very easily.

valiumredhead Sat 09-Mar-13 17:34:17

The only thing I wouldn't have liked is the false eyelashes, other than that it's just dressing up and my ds used to wear lippy and nail varnish so I can't really get worked up about it tbh.

I'd have been appalled at this if it was my DD at any age.

When we did a 'spa night' at Brownies, we sought written permission from parents for nail polish, hand cream and face masks as we wanted parents to be happy and to check for any allergy issues.

BahrainB Sat 09-Mar-13 17:01:52

It is sadly true sad stargirl1701. I get your concerns .I try to keep things really unisex in our family as I grew up with brothers and didn't get to the girlie stuff at all till uni pretty much.

There was probably always a OTT crowd like the host who think it cute to put makeup on a child and that they LOVE it
Sadly it seems it is becoming more acceptable.
.. My DD didn't love it at all .

stargirl1701 Sat 09-Mar-13 10:58:52

If this is true, it is very depressing. They are 4, not 14. My DD is 6 months old - how do I avoid all this pink, princess, beauty queen shit?

BahrainB Sat 09-Mar-13 10:43:39

It took tweezers and a little painful pulling to remove the lashes and the war paint took a fair scrubbing.

Pozzled Sat 09-Mar-13 10:01:33

Ugh, I'd be annoyed and actually quite upset if this happened with my 4 year old.

I think it's very different from face paint, which is usually an imaginary character e.g spiderman/fairy or an animal. Face paint is seen as a childhood thing, but make up is an adult thing. It's encouraging children to look like adults, and it is setting the example that looking 'pretty' is a good thing. It's the same message that girls see from a hundred different sources, but starting even earlier.

I'd also be concerned about the physical side: when my daughter has had face paint on, the artist had always kept the eye area clear so it's easy to remove without getting in her eyes. I wouldn't be confident about removing full make up from a cold without getting it in her eyes, and I honestly wouldn't have the first clue about removing the eye lashes.

Twattybollocks Sat 09-Mar-13 09:42:52

Sparkly blue eyeshadow, fine, bit of blusher, fine, clear lip gloss fine, even pastel mail varnish fine. Foundation and false lashes definately not fine. Dd loves having her hair curled but that's as far as it goes.

Szeli Sat 09-Mar-13 09:38:59

* party lashes won't wash off, they need removing; take it the laws are different in Dubai then regarding treatments on minors? xx

SomethingOnce Sat 09-Mar-13 09:28:23

Ugh, ugh, ugh! What is wrong with people?!

[weeps for the future]

Ilovexmastime Sat 09-Mar-13 08:37:10

YANBU. I think there's a difference between girls mucking about with make up at home and it being applied by an expert. In the first instance they are having fun applying it themselves and they normally end up looking more clown like than 'beautiful', whereas in the second they are presumably sitting still, while sometimes is done to them to make them 'beautiful' and the fun bit is seeing how 'beautiful' they look when it's finished.
I'm happy with them mucking about at home for fun but I wouldn't be happy to hear that someone else was applying it professionally, especially not at that age.

shockers Sat 09-Mar-13 08:35:55

I don't think it's the same as face paint. Being painted as a Dalmation or a butterfly is a bit different to suggesting to a four year old that she is a prettier girl with long eyelashes and pink lips.

Most make up, and nail polish wouldn't bother me. Fake eyelashes would, as would mascara and eyeliner. 4 is far too young for that. DD would have rubbed at it and smeared crap right into her eyes.

Altinkum Sat 09-Mar-13 08:15:34

I don't get it it washes off, would you be aghast if your child came home with face paint on?

LeoandBoosmum Sat 09-Mar-13 03:49:01

Well, I have to say that I would have gone positively ape shit! You are NOT being unreasonable.

BahrainB Sat 09-Mar-13 03:29:58

We are in Dubai but the party was hosted by a British mum .The invitation stated pretty princess dress up party No mention of makeup and no skin test .
The lashes were only applied to the corners BUT the makeup was trowelled on. Foundation , powder, eyeliner ... the

lot. Hair was also "done".
A lot of posters say its no big deal but I hate the thought of little girls thinking you have to do all this to be beautiful at such a young age.

My DH is a pretty easy going guy but his faith calls for modesty .

PetiteRaleuse Fri 08-Mar-13 23:18:23

This thread would make an excellent tabloid feature three page spread with pictures of angry mums looking at their dolled up daughters in horror.

Maggie111 Fri 08-Mar-13 21:51:31

Yes that's grim! I could understand going to someone's house and playing with make-up at a young age... But a beautician?! Girls age 4 with fake eyelashes? Cor, I'd be horrified!

What bothers me is it's not girl's playing and exploring and looking silly, it's a professional saying "let's make you look more beautiful".... I think it's revolting.

I would not let my daughter go to another party - but I wouldn't kick up a fuss or anything.

PetiteRaleuse Fri 08-Mar-13 21:29:04

Wow I've been abroad for too long. Is it really that big a deal? Once? At age 4? I can't believe what a big deal is being made.

OP you're not a DM journo looking for shocked quotes about the increase in make up parties for little girls are you? If so, looks like you didn't misread your audience for once.

Is your child a boy or a girl?

LadyBeagleEyes Fri 08-Mar-13 21:22:15

grin MrdDeVere, her and all the rest.

MrsDeVere Fri 08-Mar-13 21:20:44

The OP is straight out of the 'How to be contentious on MN' handbook

or perhaps the 'What to do if you have a tight deadline for a filler/fluff piece and no research budget for Dummies;

LadyBeagleEyes Fri 08-Mar-13 21:16:59

Yup, there's a fair few 'controversial' threads around tonight isn't there?

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