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Gob smacked that a four year olds birthday party warrants a beautician who applied party lashes , full ( we are talking strictly style) make-up and painted the nails of all the tiny dots that attended. This was our first "drop off " party ever and I am just so horrified . What I would have done if I had actually been there , I don't know. Moreover , I am too shocked to say anything . Thank goodness she is heading to the bath before her daddy gets in on a late flight.

I actually think aw how sweet. But then my dd and ds have always had makeup and nail varnish to play with.

That's a very odd party four year olds I have to say!

Its a bit vile imo, but nowt you can do now. Didn't they tell you in advance? I'd have thought there might have been allergy issues for some children potentially?

Playing with make up - fine. Beautician at a 4 yo party - yuk. YANBU.

Cant really see the harm in it.. not as if they came home with a pierced nose and a tattoo..

Nail varnish I wouldn't have a problem with. Putting something near my kids eyes, yeah I'd no be best impressed.

Yanbu

I am pretty chilled with dd having nail varnish on and her hair done etc but this seems ott.

Was it not mentioned prior to the party?

Was the party at Katie Price's house?

I wouldn't like it - when I was wee I had very sensitive skin and couldn't wear face paint etc

I would also be concerned at someone messing around so close to the eyes of my four year old

OOh, I would not have liked that either.
Beautician for 4 year olds fgs

Hmm... 4 does seem a little young for that. I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with a 4yo having a little bit of make up applied, or nail polish put on, as a treat/game BUT as the mum of a little girl I would definitely have wanted to know about it first. That would be my biggest issue. I probably would have been just as shocked as you if DD returned home done up to the nine.

I think in one way you can make having some child-friendly make up applied can be dressed up as a 'game', similar to having their face painted, and while it wouldn't be the party I would chose for my DD, I wouldn't have a big issue with her attending one, as I would chat to her first about it being 'dressing up' and something kids don't do other than at special parties like this. Party lashes is probably a step too far for me, though. And I imagine most young kids would like their nails painted if they see mummy doing it, though I'd probably restrict that to toenails.

The thing that would really anger me is that you weren't asked if it was ok and there's a high chance there could be allergy or skin issues related to this. A 4yo is probably never had make up, eyelash glue etc applied before, they could easily have a reaction, and especially if the mum holding the party hasn't asked any of the parents first if their kids have any skin conditions.

Nail varnish is ok, but make up and false lashes on a four year old?! Yuk!

Grim.

Not good IMO. Dd has multiple allergies I would have been really angry if I had left her at a party and someone put anything on her face. She isn't allowed face paint and I'd mention that I wouldn't expect make up though so wouldn't mention it. Her face would be raw and weeping by the time I got there.

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yeah, grim

beyond grim actually, fucking grim

I have to admit to considering letting dd and 1 friend go to this Princess day thing at my gym for v her 4th birthday when it comes they get nails and hair done, dressed up and have a Dolly tea party, I'm not girlie at all But she seems to live that stuff. It doesn't worry me, it's definitely more playing than an expectation of looks and I stand as her hairy legged make up free role model .

I therefore think yabu to be horrified by mail varnish etc but even I think false eyelashes and not discussing with parents first is very off.

This makes me very sad. I love dressing up & role play but in a range of outfits & fun face paint or whatever but make-up No. What message is this giving a 4yr old? The ideal is you should look pretty & to do that you need all this crap on your face!! Is it any wonder kids are growing up too soon, they are not dolls & all this has an affect. Were there no boys there??

I would see it as cheesy but harmless.

Nail varnish not so bad but eyelashes?? I'd hit the roof

False eyelashes? How did she get them on the kids at all?

YANBU, I would be pretty shocked too OP.

I think it's grim and awful, but I don't really know why I think that. It all washes off and they're only playing I suppose, it just gives me the heebie jeebies.

Someone bought DC1 make-up for her 8th birthday and it made me feel a bit sick, I think mainly because she isn't at all in to that sort of thing and it was the assumption that it was a good gift for an 8 year old girl.

Ick

Our poor girls.

for a four year old id be a bit hmmm about the make up and nail varnish but would go balitic over the ele lash's. who do they think they are not even telling you about it first so you can say no.

imo at four this is done more for the parents.. i c ould see a 9 year plus girly girl wanting and asking for this though.