to want to kick dp in the balls!!!!!

(136 Posts)
InTheNightGarden Sun 10-Feb-13 17:59:55

We have a 22month old dd who is teething atm and is a nightmare! (No fault of her own)
And a week old ds.

We live in a small terrace house...SMALL! things are hard enough atm with dc and the fact we're moving in just 3 weeks and I've been trying to pack things up (no help from dp) he's had his brother here ALL weekend, all they've done is sit on their asses in the lounge playing fucking fifa!!! The lounge tv is the only one we have and I dont particularly get on with his brother (he's caused us a lot of problems!) so I've been in my bedroom all weekend with ds, he's had dd playing downstairs.

I was unaware his brother was staying! I was never asked, or even told, technically it's my house although he helps pay for things.

His friends have now turned up... I've gone upstairs with ds to express milk, he's come up telling me I'm rude and that I need to be downstairs to occupie his friends partners....my boobs are killing me there so full and there's only enough milk in the fridge for another 2 feeds.

I'm hungry! (Can't eat with people around, own problem I know) so havnt really eaten all weekend,my boobs kill, I'm tired from nights with ds, I'm sick of boxes everywhere and trying to organise everything, I'm fed up of dps attempts of licking my ass because he knows I'm annoyed he's been a cock all weekend.

And I don't feel I'm being rude by NEEDING to get this milk out my sodding boobs!! I just feel like crying... dp's now come and announced its my hormones! ...foot in balls very shortly!!!!!!!

wait.. new baby, moving, not consulted about overnight guests? Any ONE of those things should be justification enough to ask them to leave. You are not in the slightest bit rude in not entertaining HIS guests.

Frankly, with that new a baby HE should be packing and helping you, not making more work for you by inviting people over.

Do what Bossy says and feel free to completely and utterly loose it with him (in a 'don't mess with me, I am scary' way.)

countrykitten Sun 10-Feb-13 18:25:34

OP feel sorry for you. He is way out of line here.

Why are you putting up with it?

Is this the same brother that you had a thread on a while back? Sorry if I've for you mixed up with someone else, but I really don't know why you or your P have let this twat in your house in the first place. You would be more than reasonable to kick the brother in the balls and cause him some damage.

Please don't move to the new place with him, let him go in his own. Your situation isn't going to change unless you get shot of him and his horrid family.

mrsbunnylove Sun 10-Feb-13 18:32:26

have you got a relative and friend who could come round and look after you, or just collect you and the children and take them somewhere comfortable? your partner is being very inconsiderate but just after giving birth isn't the best time to make a life-changing decision. i'd like to think there is someone who can help you or rescue you.

InTheNightGarden Sun 10-Feb-13 18:35:03

When we move it'd be our house, not mine.

No he's not usually like this, he seems to think I should expect loads of people around all the time to see our baby!

I'm expressing because ds latches on incorrectly and makes me incredibly sore and makes my nipples bleed (midwife can't seem to help much!) So I express alternate sides to try and reduce pain/soreness and feed him on the other. Hope that makes sence!

He's making dinner...but none for me!! Now I'm reallyyyyyy annoyed!!...and still hungry.

BarredfromhavingStella Sun 10-Feb-13 18:35:34

Just go downstairs, sit in your front room, get a boob out & pop DS on-I guarantee it will clear the house in no time wink

But seriously, you need to call him on his fucking shit behavior & tell him what you expect from him in the future. If he can't improve on the wankerishness then the only place you need to kick him is on the arse as it's on it's way out the door.

ComposHat Sun 10-Feb-13 18:39:29

Yes he is being useless and needs to sort himself out pronto.

However YABU to say you want to kick him in the balls. How would you feel if he'd written on a public forum that you deserved 'a boot in the fanny'?

CartedOff Sun 10-Feb-13 18:40:41

Um, loads of people do often come round when a baby is born...to help out, to visit for brief periods, to bring meals and offer support. Not to play videogames and effectively confine a recovering mother to a room in her own house.

He's sounding like a massively insensitive and uncaring individual at the moment.

manicbmc Sun 10-Feb-13 18:43:08

If she was being a twat, I'd say a metaphorical boot in the fanny would be appropriate.

He's cooking but nothing for her! Not on. Not right. It's her house. She has an equal say (in fact more say as she has just given birth) and those people should leave.

Cause a scene, OP.

Primrose123 Sun 10-Feb-13 18:48:39

Hang on. This is your house. Go downstairs and very nicely say, "Sorry everyone, I'm feeling rotten, and it's time to go now, I need to rest and try to feed my newborn baby. You are all welcome back when I feel better."

ThereGoesTheYear Sun 10-Feb-13 18:49:54

He sounds like a selfish wanker.
How much money will he be putting into the new house? Is your biggest asset and means of independence getting swallowed up in this?

thebody Sun 10-Feb-13 18:50:06

Go downstairs with your baby and breast feed.

Then tell all visitors that you arnt being rude but quite frankly you're knackered and need your bed. Also that dp has many jobs to do like bathing dd and putting her to bed.

If dd wakes tonight teething do tell dp he is on the night shift and u and ds go to bed.

Give him a metaphorical massive kick in the balls tomorrow by showing him this thread.

I cant quite believe what im reading here!. You have a week old baby - you should be resting not crapping about packing and entertaining people. For gods sake just take your baby, lie down read a book and tell him to fuck off. I HATE men like this - you have had HIS baby he should be provided care while you recover and no matter what any of these superwomen you hear about say after a week you are NOT recovered not even close.

Also if you are havgin trouble with feeding/latch its even more important to be alone, relaxed and well fed. Just you, your baby and your boob nothing else will fix the situation.

zwischenzug Sun 10-Feb-13 18:54:10

He sounds like a knob, but domestic violence never makes things better.

makinglemonade Sun 10-Feb-13 18:57:22

Seriously! He's been a complete knob.

Why is he not cooking for you? You need to tell him in no uncertain terms how out of order he is!

KenLeeeeeee Sun 10-Feb-13 18:58:26

Go downstairs, tell everyone - "d"p included - to get out NOW. This is your house, you have a week-old baby and need your personal space back immediately.

If I was you, I would seriously consider not letting the selfish shit back in at all, ever.

saycheeeeeese Sun 10-Feb-13 18:59:22

I'd kill him, he wouldn't even get the chance of having his balls kicked!

Any chance that before he lived with you he still lived at home with his mammy?

I wouldnt stand for this. And tbh I wouldnt still be with him. Hes a cunt.

StuntGirl Sun 10-Feb-13 19:14:55

Er, he's not cooking for you either? What's his fucking game? He's being an absolute bellend.

What would happen if you went downstairs and said politely that you were really tired and just wanted to relax and feed your baby, but that you'd love to see everyone in a few days/weeks when you're feeling more up to it?

anonacfr Sun 10-Feb-13 19:18:47

Why is he not cooking for you??????
Go downstairs grab his plate and go back to your room.

InTheNightGarden Sun 10-Feb-13 19:19:24

He's now dumped screaming dd up here with me too.....

I would love to go and tell them all to get out but I'd end up crying and making a tit of myself.

InTheNightGarden Sun 10-Feb-13 19:20:12

He's not cooking for me because I'm rude...

Hmmmm...

KenLeeeeeee Sun 10-Feb-13 19:21:07

I would love to go and tell them all to get out but I'd end up crying and making a tit of myself

Then cry! Kick, scream, throw things if you must. But for the love of cheese get this useless article and his minions out of your home! You and your children need your own space.

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