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We have a 22month old dd who is teething atm and is a nightmare! (No fault of her own)
And a week old ds.

We live in a small terrace house...SMALL! things are hard enough atm with dc and the fact we're moving in just 3 weeks and I've been trying to pack things up (no help from dp) he's had his brother here ALL weekend, all they've done is sit on their asses in the lounge playing fucking fifa!!! The lounge tv is the only one we have and I dont particularly get on with his brother (he's caused us a lot of problems!) so I've been in my bedroom all weekend with ds, he's had dd playing downstairs.

I was unaware his brother was staying! I was never asked, or even told, technically it's my house although he helps pay for things.

His friends have now turned up... I've gone upstairs with ds to express milk, he's come up telling me I'm rude and that I need to be downstairs to occupie his friends partners....my boobs are killing me there so full and there's only enough milk in the fridge for another 2 feeds.

I'm hungry! (Can't eat with people around, own problem I know) so havnt really eaten all weekend,my boobs kill, I'm tired from nights with ds, I'm sick of boxes everywhere and trying to organise everything, I'm fed up of dps attempts of licking my ass because he knows I'm annoyed he's been a cock all weekend.

And I don't feel I'm being rude by NEEDING to get this milk out my sodding boobs!! I just feel like crying... dp's now come and announced its my hormones! ...foot in balls very shortly!!!!!!!

Also extremely bored of looking at these 4 walls!!!!!!

YANBU. A swift kick in the nadgers is the least this chap deserves!

YABU - kicking him in the balls will not solve anything.

HE is the fucking rude one here. Bloody hell.

YANBU! seriously. Someone will be along with proper advice soon, but your 'd'p sounds like an asshat.

If I lived nearby I would happily come round and kick him in the balls for you, I'm good like that.

A better solution may be to go downstairs and tell them all to fuckoff get out of YOUR house right now so you can eat, relax in your own lounge, and breast feed/express in comfort. I'd also be reconsidering moving with this selfish man child.

Why the hell is he inviting all these people round when you have just had a bloody baby?

You stay where you are. Grab some snacks and hole up in your room. If anyone says a word hit them with a stick.

Twats.

Whay yourhandinmyhand said.

YABU to want to kick him in the balls - it won't help.

YWNBU to repost on Relationships with a slightly less violent title and ask for advice.

What do you get out of the relationship? Is he always this thoughtless/selfish or is this a one-off?

Violence won't solve anything.

He has been incredibly thoughtless and rude. I would say "Please don't blame your rude behaviour on my hormones". Then I'd stay upstairs if that's what's more comfortable for you, and speak with him when everyone's gone. He sounds like he's being a bit of a tit.

I completely missed that you have a week old baby as well as a 22 month old daughter.

His behaviour is now even more disgusting.

You've been packing for the past three weeks why he does nothing?
He invites groups of people round without even asking you?
He plays video games all weekend?
He tells you you're rude for not coming down and tells you you need to entertain people?

Leave this twat. Seriously.

Can I just add I "want" to kick him in the balls, I wouldn't physically do it...don't have the energy to anyway!

Unpack, OP. Send your 'd'p to the new house on his own.

Your house, you have a week old baby you need to feed and he has people round? YANBU to feel like kicking him, although would be a bit U to do it.

Tell him to get them out now. It is not acceptable.
They can all go to one of their own houses instead.

When they're gone put what you want on the telly, feed on one side and express off the other same time if you can - he can make you a sandwich and leave you in peace.

On a serious note, he needs to sort his attitude before you move - will this be your house again or a joint one?
& for you

I missed your 1week old baby too.

OP he is a SHIT.

A week old baby and he has friends round

Move to the new house without him, perhaps? No-one would be staying with me when I have a newborn.
Why are you expressing, or is it irrelevant

YANBU to be pissed off but YABVU for saying that, even if you never would do it. Imagine if a man came on here and said something like that!

GO downstairs with the baby in your arms & pull the plug out of the wall -stand in front of the telly & calmly say

" I would like you to go now please, I have a very young baby and we all need some space & quiet. We'd love to see you again in a few weeks in the new house" (even if you wouldn't be) Grin sweetly. Don't move.

Why on earth did you have another baby with this waste of space of a DP?

Go down stairs and call him on his attitude.

Tell him and every one else you have a week old baby, he is a lazy selfish fucker and kick them all out of your house.

If you can completely re-evaluate what you are getting if you move with this lazy git/.

Tell him that either his friend leave NOW
Or he leaves permanently.

I am just trying to imagine being in that situation where my partner treated me so harshly and I can't, he just wouldn't I feel so bad for you being in this situation OP.

What was he like after the birth of your daughter?

I agree. Go down and ask everyone very calmly and politely to leave.

You have a one week old baby? Look, your 'partner' is so far beyond unreasonable it's shocking. Is he always such a fucking wanker?