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To contemplate revenge - Have you ever?

(109 Posts)
appletarts Tue 05-Feb-13 19:37:56

I posted previously about difficulties with sister, ho she has bullied and tried to control me and that she completely ignored me on my wedding day. Her daughters wedding is coming up and I have been fantasising about ruining it for her in some way, not ruining it for her daughter but for her. I imagine ignoring her like she did me or more dramatic revenges which I am too ashamed to detail. I will almost certainly not take revenge believing it's not good for the soul, but I bet it would feel bloody great and I am tempted! Anyone ever taken revenge and did it feel good or bad?

I may have gone into someone's room in halls of residence while they were away for a weekend,sprinkled grass seed into the shape of a penis and watered it.

They kept me up every night for 4 months while I was suffering with chronic fatigue. I'd begged them not to play music after midnight, cried a lot and reported him to night security. The latter didn't work because one of the security guards went into his room and listened to music and smoked pot with him.

I enjoyed the thought of him having to mow his carpet.

Roseformeplease Sun 10-Feb-13 17:24:55

Me and my friend "Naughty Jeanette" (who, if she is out there, I would love to hear from) worked in a very, very dull insurance office years ago. We were bored shitless. There was a man there, let's call him Dave (can't remember his name) who spent a lot of the time telling us how important he was, boasting about his job. He had a special job. You got free gifts with every insurance policy: kettle, toaster, radio etc. His job was.....drum roll......when the gadgets were sent back to the company because they broke because they were shit, he had to plug them in and check if they worked.

For this, he required a degree. He got a new car and told us all about it, in detail, daily, hourly (in between working those plugs like a pro). We, however, did not (yet) have degrees, nor were we driving Ford Sierras or Boasting about their perfect new paint job. So, Naughty Jeanette and I absolutely did not advertise his brand new car for sale at a much reduced price in the local paper with the immortal line, "Bodywork tatty, hence low price". He was incandescent and, pre Internet, had to conduct an old fashioned legwork type of investigation. He was told it was two blondes..........but there are lots of blondes. He took dozens and dozens of calls.....

I loved Naughty Jeanette.

fackinell Sun 10-Feb-13 17:06:00

My ex fancied (and as i found out later) was shagging around with a minor local Am-Dram 'celeb'. I lined the cat litter tray with OW's newspaper cutting and feigned innocence when he noticed her smiling through a pile of cat shit!! grin

Writehand Sun 10-Feb-13 12:20:03

Its the lowest of the low. - yeah, pretty much, Bogeyface. I was chilled by her complete lack of guilt over what she'd done. I think she sees it as a war between her and her ex & his family, so anything she does in this context to the family as a whole is OK.

Bogeyface Fri 08-Feb-13 21:40:08

I have already posted the revenge I did and that I know of, but they didnt involve anyone but the person who was the revengee. Using a child to get back at someone is utterly disgusting, and that goes for both of the stories on here.

There are some things that you just dont do. I was royally fucked over by a so called "friend" years ago. I know, because she told me at the time, that her eldest child isnt her (now ex) husbands child. But the DD doesnt know that and although I have been told that her ex H has had his suspicions over the years, he never said anything. I could use that information to get back at my ex friend, but I would never dream of doing it. I would destroy two lives if I did that, and that would make me far worse than anyone who ever did anything against me.

Its the lowest of the low.

Writehand Fri 08-Feb-13 19:44:03

Me neither. I was so revolted and I felt she was quite with morals or thought for what she was doing.

I had my revenge on someone -- I described it earlier -- but it was straight, "back at you" destruction to someone who'd wrecked my world without a care. It wasn't cruel.

Chubfuddler Fri 08-Feb-13 19:38:48

That is unspeakable. I believe you but I cannot understand the mentality behind her behaviour.

Writehand Fri 08-Feb-13 18:28:04

Someone I know (not a friend. I stress not a friend...) put up a timeline on Facebook - a countdown. It said "10 days to my birthday", then "9 days & counting", etc". and promised that on her birthday a really big secret would be revealed.

She wasn't kidding. Come the day she revealed that her ex was the father of his brother's DS. On FB. As publicly as possible. Don't know if the brother knew, but the DS definitely didn't. So a 15 y.o. boy found out from FB that his uncle was his dad. And, by coincidence, this was in the same week that the poor lad had come out as gay.

I challenged her, asked why she thought it was OK to do something like that. She simply couldn't see anyone could criticise her. Her view was that it was her ex's and SIL's fault -- they'd had the affair, made the baby -- all she was doing was breaking the silence. She wanted revenge on her ex for his DV, and she resented his family for not supporting her.

She knew this secret was because her ex confided in her while they were together. She also had his child. So her son and the victim in this are half-siblings. If that poor kid had harmed himself it would have been her fault. I think it was the worst thing I've ever known about personally. I mean you read about things like this, but it actually happened.

Bogeyface Fri 08-Feb-13 11:02:17

Well mine aren't made up, and I stand by the one I did smile

Dignity was not an issue for the OW in my case, she wouldnt know dignity if it hit her in the tits, trust me on this, I have seen the photos.

BattlingFanjos Fri 08-Feb-13 08:18:38

As someone who was maliciously reported to ss for sexual abuse on my son, yeah writing Paedophile on someone's door is great! Pretending they abuse children in the worst way imaginable and having people question you when it's all bollocks is HYSTERICAL!!!!

The lengths people will go to to make themselves feel better is sick. angry

GetOrf Fri 08-Feb-13 08:02:10

Fair enough that this is a jokey thread, but to send that text to a 16 year old kid effectively telling her her father is not who she thought it was is absolutely disgraceful and unforgivable. Did you not think of that poor 16 year old having to read that text and how she must have felt? You should be heartily ashamed of yourself, not bloody well proud and telling people as if it was a wonderful act of vengeance. Seriously, shame on you.

Chubfuddler Fri 08-Feb-13 05:33:04

Some of you sound utterly unhinged. Fortunately a good 50% of these anecdotes are probably completely invented.

What about wearing the same outfit? Or have your hair dyed a really whacky colour. Or as my cousin had to put up with, a crazy aunt wire her wedding dress to his wedding!

HeavenlyWineandRoses Fri 08-Feb-13 05:10:04

Four years after finding out my DH had a year-long affair, I still fantasise regularly about extracting revenge on the OW whose husband never knew about the affair. My fantasies usually involve the husband and letting him know his wife is not all she seems (they are one of these annoying couples whose Facebook photos and status reports suggest they are head over heels and the happiest, most united couple in the world). It's very hard knowing she has not suffered and that my life was turned upside down and that I continue to feel intense pain and sorrow about the whole episode.

I have always resisted playing out these fantasies on principle. Revenge is not healthy or healing even if it would briefly make me very happy. So, like me, enjoy fantasising but it's probably best for you if leave it at that.

raisah Fri 08-Feb-13 04:23:42

Be very nice and have a conversation with her in full view of all the wedding guests. She has two choices: to be pleasant in return or to be her normal self and cause a scene at her own daughters' wedding. She will be miserable all day trying to be nice as its too much effort.....

jidelgin Fri 08-Feb-13 04:11:46

Rachel broke my heart and left me sad so when the doe eyed first year who had been hovering around us for weeks (she'd obviously seen the vultures circling and knew the end was nigh) asked me why we had broken up I told her "Rachel talked like a rapper when we were having sex. It was really off putting".

I demonstrated my point most helpfully with aggressive pointing, a few hyper-masculine gestures and the Salt n Pepa quote "Get up on this..."

It still makes me laugh! Nothing could have been further from the truth - Rachel was a card carrying dyed in the wool fully paid up vegan tree hugging whale saving feminist dyke!

Bogeyface Fri 08-Feb-13 00:57:44

The car one just reminded me of what my sisters friend did, she got her brother to ring the police to report "his" car as stolen.

Her ex got pulled for days afterwards, and then got pulled for "spot checks" for months and months grin

I doused my ex's mattress with a good covering of powdered milk before I moved out and he moved the OW in. It gets absorbed into your pores as you sleep so you smell like sour milk the nect day. It probably helped that I left in July.

I have never regretted it,and still smile at the memory of a mutual friend confiding that ex's personal hygeine had become a talking point in the office the week after I moved out.smile

BumBiscuits Thu 07-Feb-13 23:11:55

Oh, well, that's okay then fuck's sake

armani Thu 07-Feb-13 23:04:20

Hehe I'm on my phone atm, so apologise for the spelling mistake!
It might have been harsh, but this was a man who had wrecked my life - I had to leave my job after his wife phoned my boss and told everyone I'd stolen her husband. I had no idea he was married!

BumBiscuits Thu 07-Feb-13 22:59:45

Armani, fuck's sake I hope no one knew it was you. You spelt paedophile incorrectly, what an embarrassment. shock

WandaDoff Thu 07-Feb-13 22:42:03

I was just thinking that Merlot

MerlotAndMe Thu 07-Feb-13 22:41:13

Wow. at the paedophile bit.

armani Thu 07-Feb-13 22:26:20

I once found out a new guy I was seeing was actually married. I took great pleasure in wrecking his brand new car, that he was paying for on finance! I paint stripped the car, painted the windscreen with black gloss and sprayed the words 'peadophile' onto the doors. He lived in a very nice area and moved not long after!

Still makes me chuckle now!

appletarts Thu 07-Feb-13 21:50:10

Wow Writehand I think I have lived a very sheltered existence, 2 nights each a week! shock

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