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to be so bothered by reborn dolls and this ebay situation?

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grumblinalong Tue 29-Jan-13 17:45:04

I suppose deep down I know aibu, different strokes and all that but my immediate reaction is kind of just to recoil.

I had no idea about reborn dolls until the thread on here the other day. I clicked on the YouTube link and for some reason it bothered me. Don't know why. Couldn't read any more of the thread. Anyway got over it in a second and didn't give it much thought until I have just discovered that I have sold my lovely silver cross pram and car seat, on eBay, for one of these dolls.

The bidder is collecting by bus and I asked if they we're bringing their baby or pregnant because there's quite a lot of kit to carry and I was worried they wouldn't manage. It's for her reborn she replied. I'm annoyed cos I've scrubbed the blasted thing thinking a human baby was going in it and I feel odd about the doll thing. My newborns went in that pram and car seat so I feel attached to it a bit. Maybe this is what's wrong with me, been sterilised so no more newborns for me. Am I weird for being bothered by these dolls? Come on MN, kick my arse (grin)

bringnbuy Tue 29-Jan-13 18:05:54

whilst i can unerstand the emotional attachment getting rid of something that belonged to one of your kids i don't get your being so bothered about the buyer putting a 'doll' in is as opposed to human flesh. just thank your lucky stars that YOU were in a position to use it for what it was intended whilst she is putting a man made item in there at a guess because she can't have a baby of her own.

anklebitersmum Tue 29-Jan-13 18:07:45

It's a bit ewwwww but hey, so what? As long as she's paid right?

To me it's a bit like selling a telly to someone and then freaking out because you found out they were watching porn on it. grin

neontetra Tue 29-Jan-13 18:10:30

I'm not sure why these dolls get to everyone so much. It is a bit unusual to have a doll as an adult, but if it makes them happy, or happier, then isn't that good? They are not hurting anyone.
YANBU to feel what you feel, but it would be unreasonable to refuse to sell it, or otherwise act in a way that made the buyer feel bad. Which I'm sure you wouldn't do.

KC225 Tue 29-Jan-13 18:11:01

I think there are two issues going on here. Yes, I agree the reborn doll thing is freaky. I don't get it but each to their own. They aren't hurting anyone (so long as they are not taking up pram space on buses).

Selling baby items is not with an emotional tug of the heartstrings. The pram/car seat going is the end of an era. My double buggy (twins) caused me no end of grief, the times I couldn't get through doorways, narrow pavements, onto buses etc., but I still got a lump in my throat when I sold it on gumtree. I did feel it went to a good home - a granny who was having two different grandchildren for a holiday and both were under three. If it was going as a toy for a weird dolly .........

Do let us know what she is like

Icelollycraving Tue 29-Jan-13 18:11:10

Yabu. You are selling it because you don't want it. I personally think she deserves a little compassion. IMO they are desperately missing a baby,either through mc,unable to carry,SIDS or perhaps she just likes playing with dolls. Be grateful you don't need one.
Arse kicked (a little).

it would annoy me a little bit too, because it's a waste of a perfectly good pram!

try not to think about it though, you sold it, you'll get your money and eventually you won't even think about it.

valiumredhead Tue 29-Jan-13 18:13:00

I find I am agreeing with worra a lot today!

RooneyMara Tue 29-Jan-13 18:13:02

it reminds me of the one about someone selling a really nice dress on ebay and finding the person she sold it to was a bloke, and he was going to use it himself.

Might have been me. I can't remember now.

valiumredhead Tue 29-Jan-13 18:13:42

Why is it a waste of a good pram? confused the person buying it obviously wants it!

frasersmummy Tue 29-Jan-13 18:13:49

grin at kc225 ..

because a pram is for a baby to go in, not to sit in a corner with a doll in, that's why!

not all people with reborn dolls take them out for walks and sutff... some of them just like to have them sitting in their house.

RooneyMara Tue 29-Jan-13 18:15:48

they are designed and made for live children with the needs of a live child in mind - it is a waste to put a waxwork in them imo. but there's a lot of waste in the world.

frasersmummy Tue 29-Jan-13 18:16:21

if you buy a doll why not a dolls pram.. its not going to complain about being crampt or outgrow it is it ..

WorraLiberty Tue 29-Jan-13 18:16:37

I find I am agreeing with worra a lot today!

I'm sorry, I hope you get the mental help you so clearly deserve grin

KC225 Tue 29-Jan-13 18:17:10

Reading Rooneys post - maybe it's for her 16 stone hairy husband and the reborn doll story is cover. Did anyone see the Adult Baby programme before christmas?

valiumredhead Tue 29-Jan-13 18:17:15

And? So what if it sits in the corner?

I find reborns freaky as all get out but they are usually filling a huge emotional gap ime so not for me to judge wether it's a waste or not.

If you sell something you sell it, you can't dictate what it's used for.

valiumredhead Tue 29-Jan-13 18:18:33

worra I have booked myself in for therapy asap wink

maxybrown Tue 29-Jan-13 18:19:13

I find those dolls really really odd, but it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

DH's mother wouldn't let him have all her old towels for using on his classic car work, she said they had to go to the charity shop so someone could make proper use of them hmm yeah, so someone like him could go to the charity shop and buy them for whatever reason THEY wish..........

thegreylady Tue 29-Jan-13 18:21:15

I find reborns very very creepy and the creepiest thing is the name! reborn= born again! The haven't been 'born' in any sense at all.They are manufactured. I bought a cheapish one for my dgd when she was 9 and wanted a doll.She loved it and played with it until she was about 12.Now it is sitting on a chair in her bedroom and it gives me the willies.I wouldn't have got the thing if I'd known exactly how realistic they are.
YANBU

maxybrown Tue 29-Jan-13 18:21:32

Also, you could have sold it to someone who bought it for a baby but slung it around (the pram not the baby), kept it filfthy and then stuuck it outside their house in the rain to rot.........you'd never know. I imagine the woman with the reborn will be rather precious about it smile

MissVerinder Tue 29-Jan-13 18:22:13

Erm... I know a few mums who have bought prams etc for their daughters to put their dolls in and push around town- is it really much different?

I quite like the reborn dolls and can see the appeal to be honest.

YABU. If you like, maybe ask her why she collects the dolls. She can only tell you to fuck off grin or give you a bit more insight into it.

(Sorry, but I will piss myself laughing if you come back on here and tell us she bought it with her!)

phantomnamechanger Tue 29-Jan-13 18:26:22

Oh I know exactly how this feels OP - i gave away a travel cot and a load of stuff including baby bath, 2 high chairs, moses basket on freecycle - after some soul searching about whether we would have another baby and deciding no - we gave a whole heap of stuff to a young teen who was pg and living at home, she and her mum were really grateful - all good. We could have sold a lot of it but did not need the money and wanted to be generous to someone who needed it. we sent all the baby clothes to the tsunami appeal.

But the lady who came for our travel cot......only wanted it for her litter of puppies.
I was gutted. What a cheek - not to even say that before coming to collect - OK, it was not in mint condition but it would have done someone a turn. And she was going to trash it keeping puppies in it then send it to the tip. When someone could have really used it.

YABU I don't like reborn dolls, but they give a lot of happiness and comfort to people in a harmless way. Of course she wants a real pram for it, and what difference does it make to you?

I really don't understand your problem with it.

ArtemisiaGentileschisThumb Tue 29-Jan-13 18:28:23

I can see why your sad to let the pram go but it's none of your business what the new owner does with it, it's hers now. If she wants to put a doll, a dog or a goldfish in it that's up to her.

Regardless of what she's using it for it should be cleaned before collection anyway, that's just common decency

specialsubject Tue 29-Jan-13 18:28:29

you've come across some somewhat unusual behaviour which is why you feel odd.

she paid, she gets it. Strange hobby (hope it is that and not some psychiatric problem) but that's a free society for you.

write it off as 'more money than sense' and move on.

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