to be fed up with DSS2 staring at DD when she's sleeping on my exposed boob?

(231 Posts)
Enfyshedd Mon 21-Jan-13 19:28:43

DSS2 is 6, DD is 8mo.

I'll admit that DSS2 has been irritating me a bit recently (like constantly losing his school shoes in his room by chucking his comics, toys & dirty laundry on top of them and when he nearly brained DD yesterday with a wooden shape sorter toy when he lost his grip when swinging it around angry), but kneeling up on a chair to stare at a sleeping, BFing DD is really bugging me right now.

Anyone have any ideas on how to get him to stop looking?

helpyourself Mon 21-Jan-13 19:39:23

Sad thread. Does he live with you?

JamieandtheMagicTorch Mon 21-Jan-13 19:39:29

Cover yourself up once she's asleep, distract him by talking to him, And with all due respect, get a agrip,and realise that,mas much as you are probably tired and stressed, he's probably going through all sorts of emotional stuff which may be affecting his behaviour. He may look huge to you, but he's still a little boy

Tweasels Mon 21-Jan-13 19:39:52

"But some six year olds can give you the creeps by the way they stare at your breasts when you're feeding!"

Really?

VinegarDrinker Mon 21-Jan-13 19:40:18

"But some six year olds can give you the creeps by the way they stare at your breasts when you're feeding! Not all children are nice!"

I don't understand how a young child can "give you the creeps by they way they stare at you". I think .you are ascribing adult, sexual feelings to a small person who is just naturally curious.

wongadotmom Mon 21-Jan-13 19:40:23

YABVU. He is only six!

Let him have some booboob!

Back2Two Mon 21-Jan-13 19:41:18

Totally agree vinegar

DoItToJulia Mon 21-Jan-13 19:42:01

Oh, he's six. Poor boy just wants to see what's going on. He needs to be involved and loved, this is a strange time for him.

I feel quite sorry for him sad

VinegarDrinker Mon 21-Jan-13 19:42:11

There are more than a few six year olds out there who are still BFing or have a recent memory of it!

apostropheuse Mon 21-Jan-13 19:42:45

Oh I feel sorry for that wee boy. What harm is he doing looking at you breastfeeding?

You sound as though you really dislike him. I hope he hasn't realised that yet.

There's nothing wrong with him looking at his baby sister feeding. If you really can't stand it for goodness sake just cover yourself more and give the little boy a break.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Mon 21-Jan-13 19:42:55

By his behaviour, i meant the messiness etc, not the staring.

AnnIonicIsoTronic Mon 21-Jan-13 19:43:37

You'd love my six year old then - he checked out his baby sister bf & asked if he could have some!!! grin

nilbyname Mon 21-Jan-13 19:43:47

Poor DSS! And I am not surprised you are finding him "difficult". New SM, new baby, new home life set up, dad uprooted and met someone new/ left the familiar picture. Phew, and he is only 6.

Grip, get one. And a bit more patience.

VBisme Mon 21-Jan-13 19:43:54

Poor kid, he's probably just curious. You really don't sound like you like him very much.
Does your DH sort out the missing shoes etc?

LittleChimneyDroppings Mon 21-Jan-13 19:44:12

Poor little kid. He's 6. Cover them up if you dont want him to look. Although I would imagine he's looking at his sister, not your boobs.

Doyouthinktheysaurus Mon 21-Jan-13 19:44:38

YABVU, he's 6 and showing natural curiosity!

hiddenhome Mon 21-Jan-13 19:44:52

He's obviously growing into a sex pest. Get rid of him immediately hmm

Branleuse Mon 21-Jan-13 19:44:57

sad poor lad.

My ds2 (5) and dd (4) are always trying to get a look/feel of my boobs if they see my in the buff. I am not creeped out by it at all. Tbh, I think even back when i was breastfeeding, most kids would look if they saw. Its not sexual, its just curious.

I think you might need to rebuild your relationship with the little boy unless you want to seriously encourage rivalry with your pfb?
Put your boob away and invite him over for a cuddle too

thegreylady Mon 21-Jan-13 19:44:57

He is doing nothing wrong.he is fascinated by the whole 'baby' thing.
I hope you love him op and give him lots of cuddles and let him feel he has a share in the baby[his baby sister].

DoItToJulia Mon 21-Jan-13 19:45:21

Oh, I forgot. YABVU and more than a bit unkind

silverfrog Mon 21-Jan-13 19:45:48

AnnIonic - my 8 year old asks the same! She curls up on my lap, and tells me she is still my baby grin

Back2Two Mon 21-Jan-13 19:46:38

Well, my sons both go on about "boobies" and milk and I'm not breast feeding at all! Haven't done for 3 years now. It's natural...soon they'd rather die than think about their mum's boobs! grin

Ds1 was 8 when ds2 was born he would sit and watch me feed the baby, he was just enjoying being with us.

Its not creepy 6 is still very young

Astley Mon 21-Jan-13 19:49:16

Poor wee boy! He's curious, looking at his sister. DS is 5 and does it all the time. You sound really mean.

Tweasels Mon 21-Jan-13 19:49:22

I always think it's great for children to see babies being breastfed as it normalises it.

Obviously not when people find it "creepy" though confused

MrsBungleBear Mon 21-Jan-13 19:49:42

YABU. How sad. He is 6. My DD was always staring/questioning/poking me when I was BF DS.

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