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To ask how long you were with DH/DP before they proposed?

(137 Posts)
Croccy1979 Wed 02-Jan-13 15:14:37

I've had a couple of friends who've done it very quickly recently! Good for them
Just wondering what's average? Guess it depends on age.....

MsVestibule Thu 03-Jan-13 14:41:41

3.5 years.
We met in the July.
I was pregnant by the next May.
We moved in together in the December (when I was 35 weeks pregnant).
DC1 born in February.
Pregnant again by January.
DC2 born in October.
He proposed in December.
We married 6 months later.
So, just under 4 years from our rather unpromising first date to wedding day.

OhTheConfusion Thu 03-Jan-13 14:34:15

Met Sept 2006
Kissed Feb 2007
Got together Aug 2007
Moved in together Oct 2007
Engaged Dec 2007
Booked wedding Feb 2008
Married Mar 2009

Everyone is different, one of my friends met her now DH on the 12th of Aug on holiday and married him on the 6th of September! (9yrs ago!)

mowbraygirl Thu 03-Jan-13 14:30:00

Met DH in March engaged in June and married in September all the same year. DD was born 4 years and 5 days later so this year will be 44 years and DD will be 40 in September have a DS as well he will be 37 on Saturday. We are still happy together DH has been retired for 8 years now.

phantomnamechanger Thu 03-Jan-13 14:22:08

about 4 weeks - we kept it quiet for another month as did not want to shock everyone
married 7 months later, been married 17 years now

JustFabulous Thu 03-Jan-13 14:21:02

Met Jan 1996.
Engaged Oct 1998.
Married July 1999.

AlphaBeta2012 Thu 03-Jan-13 14:16:40

9 months, and married at 18months

freddiefrog Thu 03-Jan-13 14:15:46

11 years but he never actually proposed. Just came home from work one day and mentioned he'd booked us in for a show-round at a local wedding venue and did I fancy it

MaxPepsi Thu 03-Jan-13 14:09:50

He asked me to marry him about 2 weeks after we started going out, we'd known each other for several years before.

Kept it to ourselves until after my brother had married the following year as they had been planning for a while and didn't want to take the shine away from them.

Got him to ask my dad's permission as he'd not proposed properly and didn't have a ring in the November, married by the following September.

So we'd been a couple less than 3 years by the time we got married. And this from the guy who said he'd never get re married or have more kids! (sadly the more kids in null and void as we can't have them)

Alibabaandthe40nappies Thu 03-Jan-13 13:57:52

Men are not commitment phobic, unless they are just not that into you!

Theshriekingharpy Thu 03-Jan-13 13:46:00

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

3ismylot Thu 03-Jan-13 11:25:53

2 months but didnt get married until our 5th anniversary of our first date!
We had 3 kids before we got married and have now been together 8 years (married 3) and couldnt be happier grin

jamdonut Thu 03-Jan-13 11:25:13

6 months..We had just been to see the film Heartburn (Meryl Streep,Jack Nicholson) which was all about a very failed marriage. When we were walking home he asked if we could get married. I just laughed...then moments later realised he was serious! And said yes!
We were engaged for 4 years before we finally got married,though.Only because we needed somewhere to live,and it took that long before a Housing Association finally offered us a shared ownership scheme flat. Then we were married 5 months later.
We will have been married for 23 years in April, and have 3 lovely children,12,16 and 20.

Theshriekingharpy Thu 03-Jan-13 11:16:47

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

QueenofPlaids Thu 03-Jan-13 10:59:11

Proposed fairly early on & we talked about marriage but wanted to get established first. I told him not to ask until we could do things properly (e.g. Not worry that the money spent on the ring might be needed if the boiler broke down or something equally romantic! blush

We bought the ring earlier this week. It's been almost 10 years and wil probably be just over 11 when we marry.

YouOldTinsellySlag Thu 03-Jan-13 10:47:30

He proposed after six weeks, we married after being together eight months, and our DS1 was born just under a year after we met.

We've been together seven years and have DS2 as well.

I really love my wonderful DH. Sometimes you just KNOW.

ginmakesitallok Thu 03-Jan-13 09:16:43

Got engaged 2 months after we met - 19 years later we're still not married (My Mum told me now to rush into anything wink)

tumbletumble Thu 03-Jan-13 08:31:36

Met when I was 22, he was 21
Started going out 8 months later
Got engaged when I was 28, married at 29
First DC when I was 31

bruffin Thu 03-Jan-13 01:25:32

Went out for 3years before engaged then married 10months later.

Met at 19yo
Engaged at 24yo
Married at 28yo

In between we bought a house, a car and a rescue cat.
DC didn't roll along till we were 33 yo.

ripsishere Thu 03-Jan-13 00:49:39

Met and married within six months.
Our DD was born 14 years later.
DD is now 11.

Tallalime Thu 03-Jan-13 00:34:34

13 years.

Got together at 18 in 1998, he proposed in 2010, got married in 2011.

Seems like a long time but neither of us were fussed about marriage until we had DD, then we had to pay off the house, then save up for the wedding.

She was our flower girl (she was 3), now we can finally afford to try for DC no 2.

Leonas Wed 02-Jan-13 23:57:01

7 years after we met - hadn't been together for the full 7 years as it was on/off for a while etc

Longdistance Wed 02-Jan-13 23:45:46

A year. We went to Antigua for our first anniversary together, and he popped the question there. We also bought my ring there.

TraineeBabyCatcher Wed 02-Jan-13 23:39:03

We've been together about 2 and a half years, he's moving in soon, he was given strict orders that I wouldnt even consider it till we had lived together, but he has hinted that it won't be long after...

So I'll get back to you on that one

Wishfulmakeupping Wed 02-Jan-13 23:37:56

10 years- but he told me on a regular basis that he wanted to marry me me, and we were only 19 when we met and at uni so 10 years was right for us smile

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