to wonder why DS has been sent a 'girly' birthday card again?

(186 Posts)

He is 2.

I appreciate the receiving a card, I really do, but... this couple (who are/were friends are my MIL...now deceased) did the same thing on his birthday last year.

This year's is purple with pink butterflies... last year's I don't remember well but it was pink with a picture of a girl doing something birthday-like.

Cards not received last-minute so it wasn't like they thought they'd miss the post and had to send something they already had at home. Also money (or rather, lack of) not an issue here.

Is it odd thing for them to do? Am I being unreasonably ungrateful?

Are boys not allowed purple butterfly cards? confused

CaliforniaLeaving Fri 30-Nov-12 21:53:09

Thats seems a bit odd, have they ever met him? Does he have a name that could be either boy or girl?

ChippingInLovesAutumn Fri 30-Nov-12 21:54:46

SMS - whatever. Honestly, there's a feminism board for that type of griping.

CocoPops - did they get his name right? Do you think they might think he's a girl?

SophiesMummySaid - if you were picking a card for a two-year old boy, would you honestly go for one with purple/pink butterflies?

CaliforniaLeaving - yes, they have met him several times...

MrsMushroom Fri 30-Nov-12 21:55:22

They probably have a stash of cards and want to use them up. Especially if they're older. But really...it doesn't matter. Boys are allowed to like pink and butterflies you know.

He won't catch the gay.

SirBoobAlot Fri 30-Nov-12 21:55:30

My DS would have a field day if he was sent a butterfly card.

bedmonster Fri 30-Nov-12 21:55:34

I do think it's odd.
Sophies, not sure OP said he wasn't 'allowed' it, just that it's an unusual choice for a boy. Cards do have a tendency to be gender specific.

OpheliaPayneAgain Fri 30-Nov-12 21:55:45

Have you contacted them? to tell them it soooo unreasonable to send your DC a card with a nice picture on?

Kalisi Fri 30-Nov-12 21:55:50

Do they know he's a boy? I would find it quite amusing personally.

missmalteser Fri 30-Nov-12 21:56:57

Do they have a younger relative who maybe helped pick it? Dd2 likes to pick all our cards so there are a lot of Disney themed cards being handed out at the minute smile

I got pulled up on this - apparently blue balloons scream 'boy' for a 3 year old.

Bollocks.

MrsMushroom Fri 30-Nov-12 21:57:24

Coco....a lot of people on MN right this minute are trying to change gender stereotyping. There is a MASSIVE backlash going on about pink being for girls and blue for boys.

The people on the thread are pouring masses of energy into this...you'd be better of worrying about something that matters more...like how according to Tesco ...science kits are for BOYS only. They've labelled them as BOYS TOYS.

I hope MORE people send pink cards to boys.

missymoomoomee Fri 30-Nov-12 21:57:27

I buy multipacks of cards to save money throughout the year. I think some children towards the end of the year might get slightly inappropriate ones if I don't have time to nip to the shops, they may do the same. He is 2 he won't care anyway. I think YABU to be ungrateful, the thought is there.

My GM has a card drawer. Maybe they just use what they have.

ToffeeCaramel Fri 30-Nov-12 21:59:54

They think he's a girl

OwedToAutumn Fri 30-Nov-12 22:00:09

When DD2 was 9, PIL sent her a card which said Happy Birthday 10 Year Old.

DH pointed out that she was 9. MIL said "Are you sure?".

Oooh, now was it 9 years or 10 years ago that I pushed her out of my fanjo? It's so easy to forget! hmm

Kalisi Fri 30-Nov-12 22:00:13

Totally unrelated but I am shockingly bad at remembering Birthdays. Never sent a pink card to a boy as of yet but did send a card with a golfer on the front to a 7 year old when the Birthday snuck up on me. blush

duletty Fri 30-Nov-12 22:01:30

Hmm I remember pil giving one of the ds on his 4th birthday a card with a picture of a cake stand covered in cupcakes and glitter and thinking eh?

Than actually remembering,..he LOVES cupcakes, especially making them with grandma and he wasn't interested in any tv/cartoon type characters so it was actually the perfect card for him

But oldies do tend to have a stash of cards with random stuff on them...chickens anyone?

BOFingSanta Fri 30-Nov-12 22:01:30

I thought this was going to be one with Linda Lusardi dressed as the birthday bunny or something <shows age>confused

So look on the bright side.

So because some people on MN want an end to gender stereotyping, no one can post about anything related without having those views foisted upon them? Really?

Climbingpenguin Fri 30-Nov-12 22:02:37

I would welcome the 'wrong' gendered card being sent to either of my two.

jellycat Fri 30-Nov-12 22:02:39

My ds2 received a pink girly butterfly card from his grandad yesterday...for his 8th birthday!!!! Don't think ds2 was impressed! I can only assume that Grandad remembered he needed to send a card at the last minute and that it was what he had in. Not much help to you but thought I'd share!

FestiveWench Fri 30-Nov-12 22:03:08

I despair. FFS.

MrsMelons Fri 30-Nov-12 22:03:09

Regardless of whether it is ok or not for boys to like purple butterly cards it is quite odd and I wouldn't send that to a boy unless they specifically would like it!

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