Been reading various threads on mn with interest for several weeks now.why do u ladies feel do pessimistic about ur work life balance and compete with the ' oh poor me title'. If you want a better quality of life, surely u can downsize and have less financial Responsibilty and then look after ur dc yourself instead of paying others to look after them. I just don't get why you have kids unless you wanna love And look them yourself. This doesnt apply to single parents.is the financial gain worth it?
in Jenna's world, we'd all be living in shoeboxes, eating cereal 3 times a day, looking out of the window watching the working world go by...it's a bit of a skewed communist ideal isnt it Jenna, to want everyone to do little with their lives, just to make others feel ok? Let's call it the pack mentality of the havenots getting their little bit of control on anyone who strives for more
i dread the thought if we all thought like you I really do
see, right now im signed off for a week (two really but im going to sneak back early - needs must and all that) and ive discovered i need to work or i just dont get dressed. ever. i just in pjs and eat cereal. no bacon. we need the bacon.
Who the hell says if you a Sahp you have to be good at it?
I immaced the baby, dyed her blue and only last month accidentially balded her....again. My dogs brain is fucked. Ds reduced his teacher to a hysterical wreck in the supplies cupboard after he called a TA misogynistic. I haven't ironed properly since the nineties and my house is literally falling apart. Oh and I said shit in the school play ground last week.
I'll have you ALL know I am a shit employee and parent, thank you!
I was told there was very little chance I would ever get pregnant or carry a child. But thanks to brilliant fertility experts I am typing this with a sleeping three month old in my lap. I have worked all my life. I am educated to post grad level. I have been in my current career for 13 years. I have loved it but it has changed beyond all recognition (and more so whilst I've been on maternity leave).
If I was being honest, I wouldn't go back next summer. We could probably afford it if we made some cutbacks. For now, raising the DD I never thought I'd have feels like enough. But I don't know if I can say I'll feel like that forever. Does that make me neglectful? Selfish? Lacking in moral values?
I get the feeling the OPs issues surrounding this are inextricably linked to the poor parenting she feels she experienced. My mom had a terrible mother, a seriously emotionally abusive childhood, so she was raised by my great grandma and a bevy of aunts and uncles. Not all children benefit from being raised by mom only.
I am now really disappointed that Jenna has returned to the thread, and still hasn't commented on my wise and sensible postings about the costs of downsizing, and how few other women are in the privileged position of having a father who owns several companies and can give them a job when they want to go back to their career.
Anyone would think she was ignoring posts that might make her change her views.