Aibu to think it's a bit rubbish to use "9.30 is so early!" As an excuse / complaint?

(185 Posts)
Cathycomehome Sat 17-Nov-12 21:21:15

Ds2 is to be Christened on Sunday. Some people who are distant, duty invites like cousins, have said it's too early as they are far away, and that's fine. But loads of other people, who are very local have said "9.30?!?! Seriously?? Well we'll try...." It's pissing me off.

NanFucker Sat 17-Nov-12 21:30:39

Bof - yes that's possibly true.

lovelyladuree Sat 17-Nov-12 21:31:17

If these families can be washed, dressed and breakfasted by 8.30am for school, they can bloody well do it on a Sunday morning for you. YANBU. They are lazy fuckers.

LucieMay Sat 17-Nov-12 21:31:24

We usually aren't even up by that time!

Cathycomehome Sat 17-Nov-12 21:31:47

I think what selim thinks. Think fucking hell and then say no if you can't face it, or yes if you can without moaning to me!

HoolioHallio Sat 17-Nov-12 21:32:04

It IS early and sunday is the only day when I don't have to have the kids up and out of the house by 6am. I'd grumble to myself but I wouldn't dream of saying anything.

Selim Sat 17-Nov-12 21:32:16

I'm Catholic, ours are at 10.30 and baptisms are usually after the mass rather than during. Next parish is 11.15 which really cuts into your day imo but their vigil mass is at a more cultivated hour than ours. You can be baptised anytime you want just so long as the priest is available.

Snazzyfeelingfestive Sat 17-Nov-12 21:32:39

It is early, but as you say, it's a one-off. It's not like you're asking them to commit to six Sundays in a row out on the freezing cold. And in fact many people manage that when they're motivated to do so, e.g. playing for a football team. So it is people just being a bit crap IMO.

My DS's godparents had young children and they scrambled round to get ready and be there on time the morning of his christening (they don't live locally). That's what you do, as Selim says.

Cathycomehome Sat 17-Nov-12 21:33:52

I'm particularly pissed off with the "we'll miss the important bit, but come to yours afterwards" brigade.

ThalianotFailure Sat 17-Nov-12 21:33:56

It's a one-off - can people really not make the effort just for once? Not very good friends if they can't. Presumably people are able to make it to work / school / nursery on other days so why not this? It's ONE SUNDAY, for goodness' sake!

piprabbit Sat 17-Nov-12 21:33:59

I'd be horrified at the idea of getting up and out in time for a 9:30am service, but I wouldn't tell my host that. I'd just set the alarm clock and go for it.

However, if my children and I were then forced to listen to a 30min diatribe from the minister about how we were going to suffer hellfire and damnation as non-believers, well I'd be more than a bit ticked off (and yes, this did happen at one recent christening I went to).

wigglesrock Sat 17-Nov-12 21:35:04

We just make mass by 10am so 9.30am would be early for us grin especially if we need to comb our hair, pick the raisins off the baby etc. We usually just make 10am by the skin of our teeth in our jeans.

Our chapel christens at 1pm after 12 mass.

When we've gone to baptisms in normal CofE services they have been in the big family service, not the early Eucharist - they have Morning Prayer at crack of sparrow's fart 8am or something that day instead, then a full Eucharist with Baptism at more like 10 or 11, leading nicely into a bit of a dooooo.

9.30 is early, but I agree you can't choose, particularly if the vicar is dashing off to do St Bernard's at 11am.

Pourquoimoi Sat 17-Nov-12 21:35:16

YANBU - it's rude. They can get up in time for work/school so they can make a small effort for your family's important event.

ThalianotFailure Sat 17-Nov-12 21:36:02

in fact, the more I think about it, the ruder I think it is. DD, aged nearly 3, is not an early riser by any means, but if we had been invited to this we would make it, by hook or by crook. Some people clearly have no manners.

Cathycomehome Sat 17-Nov-12 21:36:26

It's not a scary type of church, one of our godparents is a fully civil partner shipped up lesbian as well as committed Christian. And if you're invited to something there is an option to say no....

fraktion Sat 17-Nov-12 21:37:45

It's not that early but it's still getting up at 8ish rather than 9ish which is a big psychological difference for me!

My parents' parish church has just split 9.30 to 9am and 11 (I think). That caused a lot of grumbling. One is high, one is low/family friendly so christenings are now a more civilised hour smile

ethelb Sat 17-Nov-12 21:37:51

Not catholic was my first thought. No catholic priest would be ready to face a crowd of families and babies at 9.30. grin

They wouldn't normally arrange until at least 11.30.

ErmahgerdBlahdyCold Sat 17-Nov-12 21:38:22

I tend to find I'm up with the DC and they're climbing the walls, because there's very little to do that early on a Sunday morning in the winter. Provided you wouldn't mind a bit of running up and down the aisles, we'd come! wink

Pourquoimoi Sat 17-Nov-12 21:41:08

Also agree that YANBU to be pissed off with the "we'll turn up later" brigade.

When we got married we had a big civil wedding one day and a very small family blessing the next day (DH was divorced previously so couldn't get married in church. I had a relative who decided my actual wedding wasn't good enough for her to attend but she would attend the church blessing. We told her she was welcome at both or none. If my wedding wasn't good enough for her then why should I want her there at the blessing? She came to neither. Different to your story but a similar principle I think.

Hope it goes well for you all.

MmeLindor Sat 17-Nov-12 21:41:41

All those saying they couldn't manage to get everyone up and dressed by 9.30 am - what do you do on school days?

Floggingmolly Sat 17-Nov-12 21:42:19

Don't they have any later services?

FlaminNoraImPregnantPanda Sat 17-Nov-12 21:43:41

I think anyone could manage to get everyone up and dressed by 9.30 if they really wanted to. The problem the OP has is that some of the people she's invited don't really want to, sadly.

Cathycomehome Sat 17-Nov-12 21:44:22

No. If they did, I'd have chosen one of them!

whethergirl Sat 17-Nov-12 21:46:55

YANBU, it's a one off occasion. Most people can get to work or school by that time can't they? So it's not impossible. It just means having to give up ONE lie in, big deal.

trixymalixy Sat 17-Nov-12 21:48:10

It is early, but YANBU to be pissed off that people are using that as an excuse not to come, I think that's very rude.

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