I've posted about DD before and always had great unbiased advice.
DD is 8 and had a horrendous year at school last school year (Year 3). I was constantly in with the Head as she was picked on by one particular girl who is very precocious and seemed to have a dislike of DD. DD had been physically hurt on several occasions. It culminated in me making a formal accusation of bullying against this child. It was a difficult decision as I know the parents and did speak to them socially on occasion. The day I made the accusation DD was actually afraid to go to school and I had to keep her off, so I didn't do it lightly if you see what I mean.
I do know that there were occasions when DD had retaliated (some pre meditated) to this girl and as far as I was concerned the situation was becoming intolerable and could not continue. My bright happy child was changing before my eyes and it was heart breaking.
This was all at the end of last term. The mother of the child in question reacted very badly to the bullying accusation. She refused to speak to me (her prerogative I know) and I didn't push it all. She turned her back on me in the yard constantly and refused to believe that her daughter had done anything wrong.
Roll forward to this year and on the first day of term this girl hurt DD by squeezing her arms so hard she left marks. DD followed instructions and informed teachers and didn't retaliate. The school logged the incident but at the time as there were no witnesses couldn't do anything despite my protestations. On Friday another girl came forward who HAD witnessed the incident and when questioned by the Head confirmed the story exactly as my DD had said. The girl was punished by missing 2 break times.
Now she is having a party and both her and her mum handed out invites to all the girls in DD's class apart from DD. DD was visibly upset but handled it very well. Again, heart breaking to watch for me as her mum. I didn't expect an invite given the history, but to hand out invites in front of DD and highlight the fact that she is the only one excluded is very cruel in my opinion.
Well done if you have got this far. What I am asking is - should I have left things? By reporting this bullying (officially) I feel that I have made matters worse for DD. This girl is constantly saying 'I can't be near you - I am not allowed'. It is a small school and this makes DD's life really difficult.
Sorry for the rambling!
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AIBU in thinking that in trying to make things better for DD I have made them worse?
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ParanoidAnnie · 10/09/2012 13:30
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