My DF has recently retired and has received a lump sum from his pension. On top of this he gets a really good income (he's been careful over the years) so my DPs are not struggling financially at all.
My DM is now trying to talk my DF into spending a lot of money on their house. It's a 4 bed detached house (the old family home) and it does need some updating but DM wants a conservatory, new kitchen, new bathroom, total redecoration. Total cost of this is £25k+ on a house that really isn't worth it. The money isn't the issue however, it is that my DM has a life-limiting illness that means her mobility (which is already slightly compromised) will only get worse. The house is not really adaptable for this and frankly seems just too big when there's just 2 of them living there. They don't get lots of visitors or anything so have no need of the 4 bedrooms.
My DF says he has always disliked the house despite living there for 27 years or so but my DM is adamant they're not moving. She reacted very badly to my suggestion that they sell up and buy a 2 bed bungalow, which might be more suitable for her ongoing needs.
I feel my DM is being incredibly selfish about this, by forcing my DF to stay in a property he doesn't like whilst spending a load of his pension money, just to have to move out in a couple of year's time when she can no longer get around.
AIBU to want to bang their heads together? My DM is not backwards at relying on her illness to manipulate people...
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to think my parents need to sell up and move somewhere smaller
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lovemyalfa · 27/08/2012 17:53
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