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Neighbours kids broken my fences confronted father today and he wont talk about it...RANT and advise needed too

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Emmz0 · 17/04/2011 02:22

For last 2 years i have been putting up with neighbours (one side )who think its okay to play football in the back garden with a heavy football to the point they have caused massive holes in our fence and bent them. To add to this, the father thinks its okay for them to give themselves permission to climb over fences and retrieve ball.

On several occasions I told the kids to stop climbing over our fences to retrieve ball as they were damaging them.Sometimes they did listen and rang our doorbell to ask for the ball. I told them i would rather have them ring our doorbell then climb over our fences. To add to this, father on many ocassions used to lift kids up to climb onto and over our fences.

I nicely tried to have words with him about our fences being damaged and he said he would pay for damages when the time came. I told him the point was not to damage them in the first place etc by climbing over fence kicking with a heavy football. note this is a newbuild house we are talking about so this is not the place to play football as you just manage to stretch your legs out in the tiny patch of garden. They managed to squash in a massive goalkeeper football net.

Anyway, once i saw the kids using a trampoline to jump over our fence and this time i had a word with mum being polite as i could telling them not to climb over fence and she said don't worry thats why we bought a trampoline so the kids could jump over the fence not to disturb you!!!!!!!!!! do these people think they own the street or something???? am i being unreasonable on this to expect neighbours not to trespass my property boundaries. she started getting angry over this like it was her property i tried to be calm and told her its not safe for a kid to use a trampoline to jump into my garden.

The final straw is today i saw the neighbour bringing in new fences. note, their side of fences, the ones they own are so damaged - they don't even need to climb over their neighbours fences to get ball they walk through!
I said to the neighbour: new fences hey, any for us? he said no. I said what about fences for us to replace the ones your kids have damaged. he said what they are 12 year old fences......this is what has really pissed me off. its his kids climbing over and hitting haeavy football that have caused the fences to be this way not the fact they are 12 years old.note i only have one kid just recently who is 2 months old so we are definately not damaging our own fences in anyway. so i said can we talk about this and he said no. I tried to talk again and he said he didnt want to talk any further. because i had to go somewhere else i didnt pursue this matter further but im really annoyed and upset when i know that this is down to his kids and him and his wife.

to add to this our house has two parking spaces at the front clearly labelled each one with our house number and grid painted so it can clearly be identified whose parking space is who. They have one parking space in front of the house and one round the corner. They keep allowing their guests, builders etc to park in one of our parking spaces without taking our permission. and i've even seen them direct anyone in our space, why cant they direct their guests into their free parking space few seconds round the corner? when i nicely asked the builder to remove his van from my parking space he said he would only be a couple of hours. i politely told him i understand but this is my parking space not my neighbours after which he moved it and both my neighbour and their builder looked at me funny as if i was in the wrong. she never even asked my permission- if she had maybe i would have said no problem.

Please let me know if im being unreasonable on any of this and why?

And advice about what to do about fences matter? Do i try and speak to them further, what to say do etc.

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AgentZigzag · 17/04/2011 02:37

Fucking cheeky fuckers, who do they think they are??

and on your behalf.

I suppose if you've already tried talking to them and hit a blank wall the next step would be looking in to forcing them to take responsibility.

But whether you think that might sour things further and not achieve much, and what you'd have to do exactly to force them, I'm not sure.

It's the trampoline that gets me, did they sit around discussing how to resolve the 'ball going over the fence' problem and that's what they came up with??

It's novel if nothing else.