I've posted about this relative before, she has asked me, repeatedly, for money for various things because she isn't good with managing her finances herself. I have bailed her out many times in the past and I'm getting a bit sick of it.
This time, she has phoned asking for money for food. She claims she would pay me back after about a week, but I'm still waiting for a small amount of money I lent her before Christmas to be paid back (it's not a huge amount, but that's neither here nor there I don't think).
Now, I could just about afford to loan £30-40 for a week, but I don't know if I want to. If I could be certain the money as a) definitely for food and b) definitely going to be paid back, I wouldn't hesistate, but I have found out money I have leant her and not got back in the past has been used for non-essentials when I loaned it to her because she claimed to not be able to afford food (and leaving myself short in the meantime). I know I don't have the right to dictate how she spends money, but she lied because she knew I wouldn't see her go hungry and I wouldn't have loaned her the money otherwise. She still doesn't know I know she lied to me.
If you were me, would you loan the money? And WIBU not to? I don't know. I don't want to loan the money because of past experience with her and the suspicion that it will be used for other things. But I feel bad if this is a genuine emergency.
I'm handing the decision over to you lovely people. :)
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to not lend money to someone who has not paid me back in the past (even though this time it's apparently for essentials)?
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taintedpaint · 16/02/2011 20:08
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