DS is 4.10. today, just after school we nipped into the shop across the road from his school. its always busy in there at school run times and there were lots of children in there.
while we were queuing there was a boy with his mum behind us. i shall call him "Tyler" for the purposes of thir post. DS clearly knew "Tyler" from school, so he waved and said a cheery "hello!!" to him. "Tyler" sneered back in his face at him "I'M NOT YOUR FRIEND DS!!!!" really spitefully :( ds's poor little face looked crestfallen, and i was embarassed for DS because there were loads of kids from his school there who saw and heard it :(
my face was like this>> at his rudeness, all DS had done was say hello "Tyler's" mum half heartedly said, "oooh don't be horrible" to her son. i have to admit to giving her and her son daggers. if DS had spoken so meanly to another child, especially for NO reason, i would have pulled him up sharply and told him off properly.
when we left the shop (and was out of earshot of the mother) i said to DS, is "Tyler" your friend, and he said yes, I said, well do you know what DS, friends don't speak to friends like that, i wouldn't bother with him again. and told him the boy was nasty and spiteful and not worth being friends with.
i think i am a bit over sensitive when it comes to things like this, i was bullied at school and struggled making friends etc, and i am scared my DC will be the same, so i am always wanting to make sure they are popular. and i still wish i had stood up to the people who bullied me, i always want my DC to stand up to people, ie, in this case, kind of screw you then, i don't want to be YOUR friend either.
do you think i shouldn't have said anything to DS, perhaps was just that "tyler" was having an off day but doubt it as he looked a nasty little thug
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to have told DS to not bother with this "friend" anymore?
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superv1xen · 15/02/2011 17:59
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