to want a birthday cake?

[Poppet45]

Soooo this is hardly the gripping moral dilemma to end all dilemmas but it is an annual pet peeve. Me and DH have a birthday a day apart, how lovely and romantic and quirky I thought at first. We must be soulmates
Now a decade or so in I find myself yet again sighing because I know he won't bother to buy me a cake because 'he's not really bothered about that sort of thing' and will - if I'm lucky reuse the remainder of the one I always buy him, and the half melted candles, and present me with that. There's no other family up here so he is the only one who might bother with this sort of thing and he knows it means alot to me. This year he said lets go and choose one together, but he fecked off to the beer section of the supermarket and I was left to as usual pick and pay for a cake. Which lets face it will be decked with candles, by me, on his birthday. Sooo am I being unreasonable to want to have my own cake - even a muffin fer christ's sake - and eat it?

[PinkieMinx]

YANBU to want a bit of fuss from you're DH but YABU to keep buyinh him cake. If he's not bothered about that sort of thing stop bloody buying him one!! Tell him you are bothered and it would be nice if he 'thought' of you - even if it was a cupcake.

[Doigthebountyeater]

Get one of those giant french fancies - I've earmarked it for my next birthday - all for myself natch!

[badfairy]

YANBU the only time I ever get one is if my mother is about on the day. (been with DH 10 years also) He just about mustered a couple of cards from the kids last year and I bought my own present. To be honest he's always been a bit crap at this sort of thing. I some times wish he was more spontaneous and romantic but then I have to remember the ex boyfriends who were just that but also completely bonkers with it

[Poppet45]

You have a good point. Although he always manages to eat rather alot of cake for someone not bothered by it!! Think next year I'll put it to the test. Or I was thinking maybe we could take turns one year one buys a cake and the other buys a cupcake and vice versa. As I think you may be able to tell, I like cake. Very much.

[littleducks]

Just buy two smaller cakes, sainsburys have just jazzed up their 'Taste the difference cakes' and are good, then you have a bit of variety too

[PinkieMinx]

Do not take turns - let him make a fuss of you - sounds like he's not bothered as he gets the nice birthday treats - amazing how people become bothered if they get nowt

[borderslass]

YANBU I'm not a big cake eater but I want one too this year as it's a biggie

[Poppet45]

Pixieminx I think you're spot on. I'm still waiting on a wedding anniversary present and that was August. But he really makes me feel like a high maintenance Imelda Marcos type if I mention these things. Sigh.

[PinkieMinx]

I do lots of things for DH - kind, thoughtful things - i want to, I love him - I like the same back - I expect it as I think I deserve it - bit of recognition goes a long way. Don't especially give a rats bum if I'm high maintainence in that area. It's nice to say/do nice things for each other. Makes things tick along smooth.

[Hedgeblunder]

Yanbu- I haven't had a birthday cake in three years :( it genuinly makes me really sad!
I bake as a bit of a passion so nobody makes me one..
Even if DP made me a victoria sponge I'd be over the moon.
Yanbu.

[Hedgeblunder]

Couldn't agree with you more pinkie!
I'm the same- I'll buy/make dp's favourite little things and I do expect them in return