"You just crashed into me"!

[BookcaseFullofBooks]

I know I'm being over sensitive but was walking in town and a passed a woman who then gave me a funny look. I looked back and she said the above. I replied no I didn't and she said "you brushed my hand". Now I feel really wound up and am sitting in Starbucks wanting to cry.

I realise I'm completely over reacting but feel horrible. Maybe the wrong place to post this.

[scurryfunge]

She probably has OCD and can't bear contact with the outside world. I'd have said "oh, sorry" regardless of whether I had bumped into her or not.

Don't worry, it really is a minor thing.

[lorelilee]

Have you other things on your mind? - that sounds like a complete over-reaction to an almost 'nothing' incident.

[TheProvincialLady]

What is the worst case scenario? That you accidentally knocked into her/brushed her slightly and didn't notice (so it could not have been very serious). That doesn't sound very terrible.

What is bothering you? Did the woman scare you? Do you feel clumsy? Something else?

[CocoPopsAddict]

Surely you 'crashed into' each other? God, don't worry about it.

[ZZZenAgain]

did she say it in a really nasty way?

[AppleHEAD]

No your not she is a silly old bat! Just ignore her she is probably having a horrible day and tool it out on you. Fuxk her! Have a piece of cake or six and don't worry.

[ZZZenAgain]

brushing her hand doesn't sound like anything very dramatic

[BookcaseFullofBooks]

You're right. I do have other things going on. It just felt confrontational and in those cases I either go on the attack or crawl into a corner.

[BookcaseFullofBooks]

She said it as if I had knocked her over.

[ZZZenAgain]

I've been elbowed in the ribs, knocked off balance. She should try living some of the places I've lived. Sounds OTT to me.

Could you have said, "I'm sorry I genuinely didn't notice", something like that?

[Chil1234]

And it's entirely for this kind of situation that God invented expletives and strong drink... If it ever happens again, tell the crashing, hand-brusher to f* off.

[TheProvincialLady]

In that case, stop internalising HER over reaction and HER problem. YOU did nothing wrong and SHE did.

[thesunshinesbrightly]

A woman bashed into me and she had this really hard object in her bag she accussed me of nearly breaking it! well you can guess what my answer was.

Take no notice she is obviously a nutter.

[HonestyBox]

I feel like this sometimes and I have major depression that I am now managing to bring under control. It is amazing how something small can just throw you off balance. Perhaps you are just feeling very sensitive today but if you are feeling depressed please try and get some help. I have been there and I know it's horrible.

[Psammead]

If it makes you feel better, I once was giving directions to someone in an indoor shopping centre. I gestured with my hand and slapped a passing woman fully around the head. I ran after her, apologising my arse off but she wasn't interested. I think she thought I was a bit mental.

Lady - if you are reading this and remember getting smacked around the head about ten years ago by a teenager in Bluewater - my humblest apologies.

OP - don't sweat it. These things happen.

[mountainmonkey]

That's the kind of thing that would upset me but then I am a sensitive soul! Don't let it get you down- its her problem.

[FranSanDisco]

I'd have said 'I didn't but if you want to to just keep standing there and I'll crash into you properly'. Silly old moo! Like to woman who asked me to stop ds 3 yo from swinging his legs on a chair in a shop in case he hit her son 'I'm frightened he'll hurt him'. Her son was about 10 yo. MAd as a box of frogs I tell you!

[FranSanDisco]

Psammead, pmsl - hillarious stuff .

[Eleison]

Bookcase, I am capable of being just as upset as you are now by this sort of incident. I understand totally how you feel. You have no good reason to feel bad about what happened. The other woman was wrong, and you don't need to care what she thinks. I hope that this thread, and the elapse of time, are helping you to finish feeling crap about it.

[QuintessentialShadows]

Take no notice.

I was standing in a queue in a supermarket, when a trolley got bashed into my ankles. I turn around, and a really angry woman hissed at me "look where you are going you stupid c*nt"

[HotchpotchHoney]

Psammead - i really did LOL at that. Now everyone in the office know i'm mn'ing and not working!

[Serendippy]

YABU to be upset. You may have brushed her hand without noticing but it doesn't matter. I wouldn't even have registered if she had said this to me, would just have said, 'Oh, sorry, I didn't realise' and walked on without a second thought. Hope whatever is making you overemotional gets sorted.

[RunawayRocket]

She was a loon dont worry about it

[ragged]

LOL @ Quintess's story about her misplaced ankles.

[Ormirian]

Best response to that is to apologise profusely, ask repeatedly if she needs to sit down, or perhaps offer to find her a glass of water. Make a real fuss until she realises what a twat she is being

BTW it would have thrown me too.