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Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on adoption.

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Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on adoption.

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OurMiracle1106 · 12/12/2014 11:03

I don't know if any of you will remember me but my birth son was placed for adoption in April 2013 and was adopted legally in May this year.

I haven't been on for a while I have been concentrating on myself and the counselling I needed and still continue to access. But I wanted to update people.

I am now healthier than I was. I have recently applied for a voluntary role at the charity that housed me and I have an appointment at a local college next week to start an accountancy course next year. These are small steps but they are positive. After losing all that was important to me and being broken down into pieces I am now starting to put my life back together. I know its still a long road ahead but I wanted adoptive parents to know, that not all birth parents feel unable to carry on there was a time I felt that way but I'm stronger than I was back then and I am now in the process of doing things that make me happy and hopefully will make my son proud of me in years to come.

It goes without saying that a huge part of my life is missing without him and my mum but I am keeping up with the contact letters and doing all I can to enable him to be reunited with me at some point in the future if this is what he chooses. If not as difficult as it is I have to live my life. I have a future. I'm still alive. I've been through more than most people go through in a lifetime but I'm a survivor and I one day want to be able to look my son in the eyes and say all I did I did for you. I am who I am because of you. You are the reason I am. You have always been my reason. Til that day or the day I die I will continue to take my baby steps to a life I can be proud of and one that will make me happy.

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wonderpants · 12/12/2014 11:41

Miracle, I have so much admiration and respect for you!
I wish you a peaceful Christmas and the very best for the new year!

Lilka · 12/12/2014 13:23

I've been thinking about you and wondering how you've been doing, I'm so pleased to hear from you That's great news about college and possible voluntary role, congratulations! I also have so much respect for your strength and determination, and I really hope you succeed in everything you put your mind too. You 110% deserve to be healthy, doing things that make you happy and able to say how proud of what you have achieved, because it's far more than many people would be able too.

I hope you have a restful christmas and the very best of luck with your applications x

AdventuringAbout · 12/12/2014 20:11

Hello Miracle - I've had a few namechanges over the years, but haven't changed my respect and admiration for you. Thank you for updating on how you're doing. It is so good to read that you are finding ways to be happy, and I think you should already be incredibly proud of yourself and the life you are building.

CloserThanYesterday · 12/12/2014 21:16

I lurk more than I post Miracle, but I often think of you. I can't imagine how hard it has been, and still is for you to rebuild your life, but so many of us are rooting for you here.

callamia · 12/12/2014 21:24

I do remember you, and I see you sometimes being a rational voice of experience. I think you have so much potential to be a force for good - i think we talked once about post-adoption support for birth families. Your life certainly seems like you're back in charge and pushing forward. Good for you, and I wish you happiness and success.

Italiangreyhound · 13/12/2014 02:24

Miracle great news, every blessing to you for Christmas and I wish you well as things continue for you in a (hopefully) really positive way.

OurMiracle1106 · 14/12/2014 14:26

I can honestly say without having accessed adoption counselling. The counsellor pushing for more and me pushing to access long term counselling after adoption counselling I wouldn't be in the position I am today.

I have a lot of people to thank for getting me to where I am today. But most of all it has to come from yourself. A counsellor can't help if you can't engage.

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MerryInthechelseahotel · 14/12/2014 14:38

I'm another one with so much respect for you. Good to hear from you again. So pleased you are doing well. I hope Christmas is happy for you xx

Kewcumber · 14/12/2014 19:42

So glad the hear from you. I too have been wondering how you were getting on. Hope your Christmas is a positive as possible.

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OurMiracle1106 · 16/12/2014 12:46

Thank you all for your support. I received this morning a phone call from the charity and they want to invite me to a interview on January 12th.

I have college this afternoon so all is goingwell

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callamia · 16/12/2014 17:13

Congratulations. This is great news.

MoJangled · 16/12/2014 19:56

I'm another mostly lurker but I've followed your story and was so glad to see your update. Congratulations on the interview - that's an accomplishment in itself. Best wishes for Christmas and a strong and successful 2015.

Daisiemoo · 16/12/2014 20:53

Hi Miracle, just want to say well done! Your post has made me cry, I am so pleased for you and really wish you all the best. You should be absolutely proud of what you have achieved so far and its heartwarming to know that you are rebuilding your life. Merry Christmas xx sending you a big hug xx

excitedmtb · 23/12/2014 10:18

Well done Miracle. Have seen a few of your posts on here and lovely to hear that you are doing well.
I hope our LO's BM will do half as well as you have so that she too can be proud if and when the time comes.

Best wishes

OurMiracle1106 · 26/12/2014 14:57

Thank you for all your support. Christmas was really nice. Though today I have woken looking how I Feel (dying)

I hope everyone else had a lovely Christmas

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FamiliesShareGerms · 26/12/2014 18:04

Thanks for the update, and really glad to hear things are going well for you

OurMiracle1106 · 12/01/2015 19:59

I went for my job interview today. And got a phone call just before 5 today to say I've got it. It's only voluntary and part time but it's my next step. Feeling quite proud of myself.

I wanted to thank everyone on this forum for their understanding, not being judgemental and for supporting me through the worst days of my life to where I am now. I couldn't have done it without you

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RhinosAreFatUnicorns · 12/01/2015 20:02

Congratulations OurMiracle . That's brilliant news :)

MagpieCursedTea · 12/01/2015 20:05

Miracle! I've named changed since I last remember you being on here and I've just seen this thread! So glad to hear things are going well, massive congratulations on the job

Lilka · 12/01/2015 20:25

Congratulations!!! Fantastic news, I'm so happy for you You bloody well should feel proud of yourself!!

GirlsWhoWearGlasses · 13/01/2015 06:41

That's great news. Well done!

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KristinaM · 13/01/2015 06:54

Well done! When do you start ? Please let us know how it goes

OurMiracle1106 · 13/01/2015 09:05

I start beginning of February so a couple of weeks away to get myself sorted and clothes bought. I'm actually really looking forward to it.

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KristinaM · 13/01/2015 12:24

I look forward to hearing all about it

Surely you won't need lots of new clothes, especially as its a voluntary position ?

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