Okay I did this thread last year and I really want to do another this time around :) Sometimes (or lots of the time) adoption is vastly different to regular parenting, so we have our own 'how's your year been' thread. Because people on this thread 'get it'!
I want to hear from everyone - prospectives, approved adopters, people placed and waiting to finalize, and 'seasoned' (read -old like me!) adopters as well. How's 2011 been for you?
My year:
This time last year, I was about to TTC for the final time, trying for a fourth child. Now I've finally given up that route. I'm not really sure if I'll ever have another child now - sometimes going this adoption rollercoaster a fourth time seems a great idea, others it seems absolutely bloody insane I'll just see what happens in the next couple of years
However, I am still going to have a baby in my life anyway, because in May my first grandchild will be making his/her debut! And over christmas I found out exactly what the name shortlists are, and they are gorgeous names! (don't mind sharing them with the people here I "know").
And DD1 is happy. She can't wait to be a mum - although I think she's worried about her own ability to parent given what happened to her and her mental health dx. She hasn't said as much but she has a visible reaction when I drop into the conversation how good a mum I think she'll be. I really think she'll be a brilliant mum I wish she knew that as well. She has great relationships with all her brothers and sisters as well - including the sister who was underage and found on facebook and whos parents are still clueless (sigh). At least sister is 18 now. But they have had a great reunion, and are good friends, which has made DD so so happy
DD2 is definitely the challenging one! I never did end the lockdown I started in November so it lasted to christmas. I think that was the right thing to do for sure. She's a bit better now, she needs routine and structure like she needs oxygen!! Goes to pieces without it. Still I have seen her loving and generous side this year quite a lot, and school are very happy with her so fingers crossed for more home improvements!
DS has gone from strength to strength this year! Still clingy and a bit insecure, but that's how he's always been and I don't expect it to change really. He's funny, happy and basically a joy to parent :) His greatest wishes for 2012 are to become an uncle and get his own treehouse!!
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End of 2011 in adoption land - How's yours been?
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