My work (like many firms) is very 'networking' focussed. It's important and we should appaee do lots of it. But there's a problem:
As a woman in an almost exclusively male environment I find this really hard! I do get invited to and do attend all the team dos and group drinks. But I'm sort of on the sidelines as soon as the semi-private stuff and one-on-one drinks come into play.
I've always maintained (and my more attuned male co-workers actually agree) that business networking is basically a type of flirting a lot of the time. The thing is, if I as a single woman do it to male co-workers for this adds a whole bunch of complications.
The guys either feel this might be slightly inappropriate and back away (usually with a friendly excuse) or they're just a tad too eager. Point in case: every time I have gone for a drink with a co-worker and noone else they seem to have considered this a date and were disappointed when I wasn't into where this was headed. When the guys call up a work friend to accompany them to some event it's never me but often one of the junior male colleagues.
The thing is: attending a local event with your boss and then just so happening (yeah, right!) to run into their boss's boss and talking business is how careers are made and those infamous old boys' networks are formed in the first place. I already work twice or three times as hard to be taken seriously in a very male dominated field (company employs some 7% women in my division, most of them support staff). I'm brilliant at what I do but really tired of swimming and quite keen on a ride on that inflatable mattresse that the guys seem to get.
If you're in a similar situation: how do you deal with it? And what can be done in general to address this issue? I'd really like to move something and could do with some inspiration.
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MagicalHamSandwich · 06/07/2015 18:30
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