a lot recently.
I saw a film at the weekend that was very triggering ("Tyrannosaur," it is a great film in that it really got people talking -men and women - about DV in a way I had never heard before, but it is a very hard film to watch.)
Anyway, the film started some conversations with male friends about the issues of consent, when sex is not consensual even if it appears to be, that sort of thing.
It is my opinion that if someone gives consent to sex, or even if there's an enthusiastic yes, if that person is not in possession of all the facts, then they cannot be said to be consenting. For example, if a man is sleeping with another woman and neither of them know - is that in fact an assault? If they would not have chosen to sleep with them if they knew about it?
Or if someone consents to sex with a condom, and the condom is not used without the knowledge of the partner - does that negate the consent?
My thinking - and I'm willing to be corrected - is that in those situations, even where sex is apparently consensual and mutually enjoyable, an abuse is still taking place. Does that make any sense, or am I being mad?
What do you think?
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CrunchyFrog · 23/04/2012 21:58
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