... Or more specifically, my brother...
Boxing Day, we had another of our arguements, after he found it acceptable to start effing and blinding at his seven year old DSD, and threatening to "kick her out of the fucking house". After I defended her, (probably not in the best way; I took to asking him what the hell he thought he was doing talking to a seven year old like that) he told me that if I didn't "shut the fuck up", then I could "get the fuck out" of "his" house. Following his MIL's boxing day gathering, I had a rant to DBil about this, during which DBil pointed out it's not "his" house, considering DSil paid the mortgage, and pays most of the bills out of her income.
This isn't the first time DB has spoken to me in this manner, though. The first incident after returning to my home town came whilst I was still in the refuge, and he and DSil were two hours late returning DS from a day out. When I told him he could have let me know, he started getting tetchy, decided to start calling me a bitch, then used "everything I've done for you" as an excuse to tell me how much of an ungrateful bitch I am. (By this, he meant DSil babysitting once a week.) Another incident involved him telling me that he could understand why xP hit me, because I'm "that fucking annoying" , and that he was better than me, seeing as his family was together, he was getting married, he had his own house and a job.
DBil told me earlier today that he doesn't think DB would talk to a man in such a manner. There was also an incident a couple of years ago where DB spoke to his DMil in such a manner that he reduced her to tears, and his DMil is a pretty strong woman.
How do I make him see that his attitude towards women is not acceptable? Because it's infuriating, and ruining my relationship with him. :( Any ideas? Please?
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DontCallMeFrothyDragon · 28/12/2011 22:43
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