Teen Misconceptions

[Deliainthemaking]

I thought this was relevant you may all tell me to sod off lol, as I see alot of threads about attitudes to sexual harrassment etc.

other week I was reading throught my Diary that I kept when I was 14, and many people seemed to have this idea about sexual harrasment 'well at least someone wants to grope me?' I was quite alarmed reading it years on was it denial? or do some people acually think that?
I (probably naiively thought) kids were past this now

this afternoon I was in town and a young lass was arguing with another lass calling her a dirty bitch etc etc and she retaliated slag, slut etc she retorted'at least people wanna touch me' she was surrounded by like an army of lads aswell.
not much seems to have changed, and It not something PSE ever covered maybe it ought to be.
was this the mentality at your schools?
what needs to change
sorry if this is crap, its the cough medicine talking.

[nailak]

in my experience, at school you et kudos accordin to how many blokes are attracted to you

[Deliainthemaking]

yeah that was the in mine in some ways
the rich girls were popular, the poor ones were slags in mine

[nailak]

lol thats a ood way of lookin at it!!

[BerryinClover]

It's not only teens. Women seem to overvalue men's attention to them, going to great lengths to get it and many accepting even the worst kind.

[snowmama]

We had a massive problem with this at school over 20 years ago ... with the popular, pretty girls being chased by groups of boys and groped. I was saved by being deemed not attractive sporting a riotous Afro, a muscular frame and a reputation for being able to punch.

I bet it is even worse now with the hyper sexulisation of life, particularly the young. I do also feel that we need to be able to build/show other models of female sexuality....otherwise how can we expect teenagers and young women to build a healthy sexual self identity?

[Deliainthemaking]

Thats interesting snowmama I always thought ooh it must have been bad back on those days before sexism was deemed a bad thing. It interesting people may view it to be worse now. I was a noughties teen I was also deemed not attractive to the point where I got beaten up for it chased home with bricks,shot in the face,face smashed off sinks,ash blown in my eye burnt with lighters,spitting in my drink when I left the room then watching me drink it only to be told later, verbal abuse, the ringleader would get her bf's and big bruiser mates to dispense most of this and just general physical violence, she got one lad to come behind me in assembly line every week and feel my arse so everyone could laugh at me being the ugly girl.
some other girls went through this level of bullying for being ugly and being groped became something girls like us aspired to we'd often say to each other this fact and being groped was a preferable alternative to being beaten and spat on every day.
probably sounds liek a sob story but it reinfoirces the attitude today and may give others insight to why its so prevalent.

this is only 8 years ago

[snowmama]

That has made me cry. It is just awful on several levels. I gave nothing sensible to add.

[Deliainthemaking]

hugs snowmama didnt mean to upset you,

its pretty bad, I think its key to why girls are so addcited to idea of amle attention + i'm worth something

because this is the alternative.

[Deliainthemaking]

Errf, just told my mum in detail similar to above about the full extent the bullying that went on , I've never told her before, and I didnt at the time too much was going on at home and told her if what was goin on at home had slipped out it would have been very bad and I had to live a doulbe life, she seeemd down I hadn't told her and surprised it was that bad.
She said I need to talk about it.
Not sure how I feel tbh it was a long time ago, won't bring those years back etc.
she was talking about my weight/appearance again etc. I usually just sit their this time I said everytime you make comments like that you're reinforcing the message and the bullies were/ are right and they are worthwhile people and I'm not. anyway went round in cirlces didnt take well. I've I've given up and come to bed.

rantage over lol