'you look like all my favourite fantasies rolled into one'

[blackwell]

Appropriate comment for the workplace?

WWYD?

This man has also made vile comments about schoolgirls being 'sexy'.

[BarbaraSeville]

Definitely not. Unless his fantasies involve having his balls fed through the paper shredder.

[cestlavie]

Maybe his favourite fantasies are about having hard working, competetent co-workers?

[ISNT]

Ugh.
WWID?
Dunno TBH. What sort of "level" of person is he - boss / middle / junior?

[blackwell]

No - teacher, schoolgirl and secretary apparently

[blackwell]

same level

[ISNT]

Do you have an HR dept? Honestly he can't go around talking to women in the workplace like that, someone needs to have a word.

Are you in an industry where sexism is OK, or not?

It's hard knowing what to say with this stuff. I don't know what I'd so.

[blackwell]

That's basically what we did do, sprogger. He seems to have no social skills. He's made comments about having schoolgirl fantasies before, and the reaction was the same. Officially, sexism is not OK here and I think that stance is maintained if anything comes up. Would there be a lot of fuss, do you think, if he was reported?

[sethstarkaddersmummyreturns]

it makes a horrible working environment for you.
Why the fuck should women have to put up with hearing about some guy's porny fantasies when they're trying to do their jobs? And to actually be told he is seeing you in that way - bleugh.

Part of me feels sorry for this guy because of him being lacking in social skills etc etc, but FGS he is an adult, it's not rocket science to know this is not how you behave to woman co-workers.

Report.

[ISNT]

If it's a "no sexism" policy type environment then yes report. Just go to HR and say that you have some concerns about the way a colleague is speaking to female employees and you thought that someone should bring it to their attention. When they look agog, slap em with the gory details. They will be agog, I'm sure. Say that you are concerned on both personal level + concerned for other members of staff + concerned about potential damaging impact for company if anyone takes serious umbrage. That should spur them to action!

[blackwell]

he's not even attractive, that's the worst part obviously.

[EvilAntsAndMiasmas]

God I don't feel sorry for him at all, any more than I would if a colleague left the tip of his cock peeping out of his trousers. It's work, it's not ok. So many men seem to think it's fine to talk about their sexual desires any time anywhere. He needs to be told to put his sexual imagination away and learn when to STFU.

Go to HR. Anyone else hear him too?

[TruthSweet]

If he's balding, fat and has jabba the hut lips I used to work with him. He had major Britney Spears fantasies, left his wife for one of the receptionists and groped me in an empty office once. Foul creature.

[msrisotto]

What is it with blokes who think it's perfectly acceptable to discuss their sexual fantasies in any occasion? I've had that before, at work and in other situations where it is TMI, unwanted and frankly, I didn't know what to do with the comment. Usually it's done with a 'flirtatious' look on their face which is just as revolting, unwanted and borderline threatening urgh.

[blackwell]

I'll be honest. If it had been said to me by someone attractive, e.g. (the now sadly late) Simon MacCorkindale, HR would not even have entered my mind.

Ahem.

Seriously though, it wasn't even said to me but to another woman. LOADS of people overheard though. However this was last week and I kind of feel like I've left it too late to report. If he does it again, though, I shall. Even though I feel a bit bad about getting someone into trouble (why IS that - he is vile).

[ISNT]

Gawd really?

I'd be extremely unimpressed if a bloke said this to me at work randomly, whatever he looked like.

It's hardly flirting, is it. It's random, creepy and inappropriate.

[MrsClown]

I totally agree. Challenge it every time. DONT PUT UP WITH IT. I used to be in the RAF and was the only female in my work place. The guys who were sexist soon learned that I was not going to put up with it and towed the line.

Report this inhuman. He needs to be stopped and if your company do not take action they can be taken to court etc so they will take action as they wont want that to happen. Dont call it sexist banter, it is SEXUAL HARRASSMENT, there is no other way of explaining it. If possible, ask you colleagues to support you in your complaint. I know they may not, out of fear of losing their jobs. You must do it for future women. If he isnt taken to task he will just carry on, he thinks it is his divine right.