Hi, I would appreciate others' views on a tricky topic.
My mother in law is very overweight and has put on a lot of weight over the last few years. We don't see her that often - she lives far away - but when we did see her recently we were shocked at how much more she had put on. She has problems with her legs (she says due to old sporting injuries but she must know that the weight isn't helping/ is the main cause of them being so bad) and so spends most of every day sitting on the sofa, and only ever goes out in the car - it doesn't help that she lives on a steep hill which she struggles to walk up. She doesn't eat junk food (as far as we know) but with so little activity just having portion sizes too big and the odd biscuit/ glass of wine etc seems to be having a cumulative effect and she's getting bigger and bigger. To make matters worse she's had a difficult time over the past year with her partner undergoing cancer treatment (he now has the all clear but it's put a lot of strain on their relationship).
It upsets my husband (and me) a great deal - his mother's life expectancy cannot be that great if things carry on as they are and she would miss out on our daughter growing up. However we're afraid that we'll just upset her/ make our relationship with her more difficult if we come out and say how worried we are. She's not stupid - she must know that there's a problem.
Do we just sit back and hope she works it out herself? Or is there anything we can do/ say that might help/ not make things worse?
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HarrietK7 · 22/09/2014 18:11
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