Dp and I are getting married in November, Just us two - and two witnesses of course. We decided to do it this way for many reasons and it is the right decision for us.
Some people are bound to be upset by our decision, so we are going to mention the idea to our close family before we go ahead so they know our plans, but wont be discussing any dates or details until after we are wed.
I have thought about sending out something once we have initially mentioned it, stating our plans (still no dates), our reasons and how our love and commitment for each other is the main part in this day, OUR day. Almost a No invite invitation? Done in the most appropriate way possible of course but is it rubbing salt in the wound?
We really don't want to wait until afterwards to spring the surprise on everyone but also neither of us are very good at saying no and don't want to be pressurised into letting family come as it would soon spiral out of control and no longer be exactly how we want.
So is this a good idea? or a very very bad one? I don't know any more! No matter what we will be getting married as planned, so you could say none of this matters anyway. I just want feelings to be hurt as little as possible whilst still having the day that we want.
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islablossom15 · 10/08/2015 12:47
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