Is it cheap and nasty to consider having wedding this way?

(60 Posts)
Orangeworkclock Thu 10-Oct-13 12:37:38

Basically we do not have a lot of money to spend on our wedding. We want to get married next July, however we have nothing planned. Just can't afford it to be honest. We wanted a simple do in a barn/ pub with all our nearest and dearest only. Will be quite a few kids coming.
We have searched and searched, every where is too much for us.
We are now toying with the idea of getting married in Brighton- Bandstand or registry & strolling down to a'50's style American diner for burger, milkshakes and beers with chocolate wedding cake ( home made) for afters.
They have music , sound system or duke box (?) and it's decorated so no cost there. Will put the bridesmaid's in colorful knee lenth dresses. Will have it on a Sunday so dont need after do.
We obviously will need to try the food before hand. I like 'naice food'
We plan to get there Friday and leave Monday. Perhaps combining a joint hen/ stag if can afford it on the Friday night. By this I mean a comedy night with however wants to come along. Think about £10 per ticket.
That's it really. We seriously only have about £2000 to spend on this and we want people we love there only. Is this sounding ok? Or very tacky?

MotherOfInsomniacToddlers Thu 09-Jan-14 21:15:12

Think it sounds lovely! I'd love to go it a wedding like that.
Re other people ideas about halls , it does work out much cheaper. We hirer a really lovely village hall, beautiful quaint village and it only cost £125 to hire from 7 in the morning until midnight. We got married in a registers office about 10 miles away then moved on to the hall. We decorated it in the morning ( this is when I realised how lovely and talented my friends and family were) a family friend did the food, buffet but with special buffet food. (!) and tables beautifully decorated and hired. 2 bands for the evening, we had several family friends who enjoy photography doing photos. Cake made by a talented family member. Whole cost including registers office was. £2500 :-) weddings don't have to cost the earth, we are still married and I have great memories of our wedding :-)

MsAspreyDiamonds Thu 09-Jan-14 21:03:49

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MsAspreyDiamonds Thu 09-Jan-14 20:59:39

It sounds wonderfully unique. Here are a few tips to generate a bit more cash to add to your pot:

Start selling stuff on e-bay/car boots sales that you do not need anymore to generate cash for your reception.
for eg. I recently sold some gold bracelets that I inherited for 2k. If you set your mind to it it is amazing how much you can raise.

Open a high interest, fixed term notice account where you can save specifically for your wedding.

Cancel Christmas gift s this year, just buy small token presents if need be.

Cancel your annual holidays.

Cancel hobbies/subscriptions for a year

Have a late afternoon ceremony (4/5pm) so you can invite everybody to the wedding ceremony & reception afterwards. That way you have one set of catering costs so you can feed everyone.

Good luck.

likeit Thu 09-Jan-14 20:32:59

Might be a 'zombie thread' but if you're planning a wedding it sure does give people more options for their day smile

myflabberisgasted Thu 09-Jan-14 20:29:42

I think it sounds fantastic! If I wasn't already married I'd steal your idea too!! wink

drinkyourmilk Thu 09-Jan-14 20:17:33

There is a deal on Brighton Groupon today for the burlington in Worthing for a wedding package

CharlieAlphaKiloEcho Thu 09-Jan-14 19:43:41

Sounds lovely and I can vouch for cloud9 a relative had a wedding cak from them and it was delish.

The diner id quite nice, I've been there once and the food was pretty good. I've also seen a wedding at the bandstand and it seemed really lovely.

If you come down to visit before hand cloud9 sat us down with cake tasters which was fun. I'd happily come along to help you decide grin

FamiliesShareGerms Thu 09-Jan-14 19:30:17

<zombie thread alert >

ChazzerChaser Thu 09-Jan-14 19:14:08

Sounds great.

For the stag/hen thing the evening before, why not just say to people we'll be at x is you want to come and join us. Then they won't feel obliged as they might if it's billed stag/hen but you can have an evening together if you'd like. I've seen that done.

EdithWeston Thu 09-Jan-14 19:05:26

I think the wedding sounds lovely.

And bearing your own costs for hen/stag do is normal.

<would love to come and stand nonchalantly in a hat>

Trooperslane Thu 09-Jan-14 19:02:20

And another yes from me. Sounds great and nicely quirky without any trying too hard.

Exciting smilewinewinewinethanksthanksthanks

RalphRecklessCardew Thu 09-Jan-14 18:57:37

Original, considerate, fun. Very good idea.

BanjoPlayingTiger Thu 09-Jan-14 18:07:16

That sounds wonderful, but I am imagining loads of mumsnetters trying to discretely see your wedding at the bandstand, standing around all nonchalantly in hats. grin

likeit Thu 09-Jan-14 17:59:52

Even I'm excited reading that! Bet you're guests will be really chuffed with that

Orangeworkclock Fri 11-Oct-13 13:03:57

TheWoollysbackWife How lovely smile Chocolate cake is the way to go

I'm so pleased with the out come of this. It's decided!! Yay!

Now to work out logistics... confused

InsultingBadger Fri 11-Oct-13 12:52:34

I think it sounds fab and I may steal your idea! smile

Thank you Orange I have got plans for an all singing all dancing silver wedding celebration grin

I am very lucky, I have a wonderful DH and 3 fabulous DCs. As a PP said it's not about the wedding really, it's about the marriage and I have learnt not to be such a people pleaser smile

Your plans sound brilliant. I am so having chocolate cake at my silver wedding.

Jenijena Thu 10-Oct-13 20:00:41

((Sounds fab, in case you hadn't understood! Congratulations!))

Jenijena Thu 10-Oct-13 20:00:04

As a guest I'd much rather to go to a fun wedding where the hosts haven't got broke than a wedding just like everyone else's tens of thousands worth of country hotel.

FamiliesShareGerms Thu 10-Oct-13 19:52:46

I think your wedding plans sound lovely and certainly not cheap and nasty

stubbornstains Thu 10-Oct-13 19:48:34

It does sound lovely....Just a thought re: village halls- possibly it's the ones without websites you want to be looking for? In other words, the slightly less sussed ones- the ones with contact details tacked on a dog eared postcard on the noticeboard? My brother and SIL had their reception in the village hall in a v.v. posh village near Windsor (think Heston Blumenthal) and I don't think it was expensive at all.

Or...are your guests the types that like camping? Some campsites/ glampsites (????) will do weddings.

BikeRunSki Thu 10-Oct-13 19:44:42

Sounds original and memorable and a lot more fun than the many identikit country hotel/ long ivory dress/ chicken Kiev weddings I have been to.

bootsycollins Thu 10-Oct-13 19:38:26

That sounds ace, I'd love to go to a wedding like that, it sounds fun.

Orangeworkclock Thu 10-Oct-13 19:34:32

So has anyone had anything like this?

Orangeworkclock Thu 10-Oct-13 14:33:28

TheWoollysbacksWife [Sad]for you about your wedding.
Congratulations on 25 years nearly! Maybe you could renew your vows for your anniversary? Have what you want this time though...

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