Did anyone switch from full time teaching to part time teaching without their partner's/DH's support? Wondering how this affected your marriage/home life etc, etc.
I know going part time is best for me, best for my children and ultimately would be best all round for the family.
I know it would mean a drop in household income but I am confident that we could manage. DH has a very lucrative salary (think more than twice the average income and annual bonuses) plus my part time salary would mean that an income drop would barely be noticeable.
DH vetoed me going part time eighteen months ago. Now I am off work with stress and I know that going back part time would actually help with the workload pressures as well as my guilt at putting DS in childcare for 50 hours a week (10 hours a day).
I gave DH a print out of the financial state of affairs for going back 0.6 or even 0.8 as I don't know which part time hours I want to apply for. He read it, scribbled notes on it (more like noted the drop between the two in household income and childcare fees) and has left it on the sideboard for ten weeks, and not discussed it.
I plan on telling him after Christmas and new year that it is what I want to do but not sure what to do if he says no. Do I still go ahead with it? Or do I 'abide by his wishes' and let him suffer the consequences in eleven months when I go back after maternity leave and am struggling to work full time with two children under the age of 4?
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Part time teaching WITHOUT partner's support
Ridingthestorm · 19/12/2014 14:42
Well he saw this thread. Glad he did really. He has denied a lot and even denied he has vetoed me going part time. He has otherwise I wouldn't be in this mess.
Anyways, he has agreed to me going part time, though I get the distinct impression, reluctantly. He doesn't seem fully supportive (yet) but I am confident he will see the benefit of it if part time is accepted, which is likely as it was the head teacher who suggested it at a case review meeting a few weeks ago.
Yes, he was a third of my stress though I had pushed it to the back of my mind. The workload pressures was the trigger for me going off but DH's support for me going PT would relieve some, not all, of those pressures. Don't get me wrong, whereas I agree he is controlling, a lot of his behaviour isn't malicious or him trying to control my life like stopping me from having friends etc, he isn't like that.
I used to drop DS off at the childminders in a morning which was only three days per week as my DM used to care for him two days and DH picked him up two days and I picked him up one day. That changed in September when my mum had to withdraw her childcare services for personal reasons and it coincided with DH beign told to change his hours at work. He takes DS to the childminder - 50 minutes later than I did, which works well for us both but I pick up on a evening but that means I have to leave at 5pm which some days isn't convenient. That will change again come January when he starts nursery. DH will still take him but MIL is picking him up (she lives with us) and will have him an hour before DH gets home. This will give me a chance to do a lot of school stuff at school and not bring it all home.
But with me going part time as well, I can see light St the end of the tunnel! Thank you ladies (and I don't think of you pall as internet weirdos as he described you!) 
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