I've asked advice here a few times over the last year about my lovely 16yo tabby and you've been so helpful. She was always so fit and healthy until about a year ago but she had various health problems - pancreatitis, arthritis, kidneys failing - since then.
She had been ever so quiet and off her food since Christmas and we got her onto meds for the arthritis and were discussing a treatment plan for the kidneys. Then just over 2 weeks ago, she suddenly deteriorated within the space of a few hours, was clearly very uncomfortable and her breathing was extremely laboured. Dh rushed her to the emergency vet at 10pm that night, who suspected pneumonia and gently suggested it was time to put her to sleep. I really wanted to be with her but I was at home with the children so dh stayed with her while the vet gave her the injection.
I know we did the right thing and I'm relieved she's not suffering any more - I have mainly been fine but just feel really sad today. I miss my lovely girl and the house feels so quiet without her. She'd been with dh and I for most of our married life and been a real constant during what's been a period of one change after another for us. Wish I'd said goodbye to her properly - when dh left with her I really thought the vet would be able to treat her.
Thanks for listening. She was such a beautiful cat.
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LikeASoulWithoutAMind · 29/04/2015 12:45
I'm so sorry for your loss, contrary to what some of society tells you it's a real bereavement just like any other. I lost my Dboy three years in October, he was my whole world after my partner left, my business failed and I had to move out of our shared home. We relocated 500miles away and I was absolutely devastated having to have him pts a year later when he had stroke type symptoms.
I believe a lot of it comes from guilt too, I effectively ended his life but I had no choice. He couldn't focus or balance, he ate only tiny mouthfuls of food from a spoon and had no recognition for me in his eyes. I couldn't be there in the end either, I ran out of the room leaving a hysterical DP and his distraught vet. I feel so bad for that.
It WILL get easier, that's all I can really add. A few months after my boy left I adopted a rescue kitten. Not to replace him but to fill the furry shaped hole in my heart. Now I can look back at Bobo's life and smile through the tears. My new little lad is cheeky and full of attitude. The exact opposite but every bit as precious.
How sad for you. You and DH made the right decision for her. Difficult for you, but the best and most caring one. She obviously had a lovely life.
this might be of help?
Thank you all. I have actually been fine most of the time but collected her ashes yesterday which may be connected. I feel a bit silly talking about it in IRL so it's been really helpful to write it down.
Hope your cat is OK catnip and you can keep them happy and peaceful. Very sad time.
Hopefully in time we will have more cats in our life. 
We'd like to do something with her ashes Rubbish but we're not sure what. There was a perfect spot where she used to lie in the sun at our old house but we moved a few months ago and we're renting until we buy a new place, which makes it tricky, as we're hoping not to be here very long. She also didn't go out so much here 
so didn't have a favourite spot or anything.
Not sure whether to wait til we move and then maybe plant a nice shrub and scatter her ashes under it?
The only other thing I wondered about was planting something in a big pot but that doesn't seem quite the same somehow.
I'm so sorry. I'm dreading the day my beautiful cat leaves us.
Cats are so full of love and give so much to your lives. Don't feel silly for mourning.
Rest in peace lovely cat
Sorry for your loss . It sounds like you made the right decision for her but it does take time to adapt to life without an old feline friend. Within the last 18 months both of my old cats died (I'd had them for 18 years) and it was very strange not having them around after so long. I kept thinking I'd seen them out of the corner of my eye, or heard them miaow. Even now I get tearful sometimes when thinking of them, they were part of my life for so long. Mostly it is the good or funny memories I think of now though.
Likeasoul ... that was our situation exactly! We lost our gorgeous boy Simby 2 years ago in the exact same circumstances. I've just been talking about him today with my cousin and I choked up and couldn't speak! We got a new cat (Alfie) almost 1 year after losing Simby and it was the best thing we ever did. Alfie helped us all heal and learn to love again, and remember Simby in a very loving positive way.
Sending huge hugs your way
You're all so kind, you're making me tear up again In a nice way though.
We're not allowed any other pets in our rented house but in time when we're more settled we'd love to think about another cat.
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I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my beautiful girl in January. She had hyperthyroidism and kidney damage which we'd been managing for about 8 months and then suddenly overnight she stopped eating, drinking and I had to make the same decision. I honestly think it's one if the hardest things I've had to do. I miss her so much. I have another cat who is also grieving. She cries a lot which is horrible to see.
I tend to look at pictures a lot and was lucky enough to have taken some videos of her over the years. I totally under and what you're going through.
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