We have one lovely cat, who we've had for 18 months now. She is 2-3 yrs old, (the rescue centre weren't sure of her age, but she was tiny when we got her - had had a litter very young indeed). She isn't particularly unfriendly to other cats that come into our garden - bristles up a bit but doesn't fight. She is very affectionate with me and DS, but indifferent to DH and other men, despite huge efforts by DH to woo her, and avoids strangers (apart from a chosen few, usually people who have cats themselves). She is very playful - like a kitten really. She sometimes seems bored - I am homeschooling DS2 (who is autistic ) and she is always rushing around when we're in the garden, trying to join in games. He is wary of animals as a rule but has progressed to being able to stroke her on the back, which she tolerates very well indeed. In fact, for a cat who runs away when noisy children come to the house, she is amazingly bombproof where DS2 is concerned!
I feel that she might benefit from having another cat around - have always had pairs of cats in the past - but would also like DH to have a cat that paid him more attention! Do cats learn from other role -models? I am wondering whether another cat would help her to become more confident.
There seems to be such a lot of advice around introducing a second cat. I remember when I was growing up that we had a succession of cats and kittens, all of who overlapped with each other and I don't remember keeping them separate for any great length of time or even making any particular effort over the introduction process. They all got on and we never had any problems.
So advice needed. Male or female? Cat or kitten? Introduction process necessary or not? (Keeping them separate for three weeks could be a deal breaker for us as DS2 will open doors). Or just stick to one cat? I wouldn't want to do anything that would disturb our existing cat.
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lirael · 14/04/2013 11:34
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