Back in early June I started this thread about my mum and her dog moving in with us. Now they are here, and whilst DS (2.11) is mostly good with the dog, when he's bad, he's dreadful. We've had grabbing clumps of fur, stamping on her tail to stop her walking away, trying to poke her in the eye with his thumb..... Some of this seems to be him misunderstanding her, so grabbing to stop her walking away or to guide her in a specific direction, and some of it seems to be attention seeking, and linked to him being tired. He just does it so quickly, it's usually with an adult in arm's length away from them.
We started off putting DS on the naughty step upstairs when he grabbed / trod on her - the naughty step downstairs involves sitting on the floor in the dining room where he'd be at face to face level with the dog he's just hurt so we can't risk that. We were mortified and showing mum that we are treating this seriously. We don't want our boy to hurt her dog or for DS to get bitten in return. That had no effect.
We're now moving him away from the dog as quietly as we can and ignoring his behaviour, presuming that he's doing it for attention, and praising both him and her (boy and dog) when they're behaving well together. We can't leave them alone together though, even for as long as it takes to empty a potty or collect DS's toothbrush from upstairs.
I don't want to shut the dog away from the toddler, as she'd only have the run of the kitchen and a study, and be shut away from the main living rooms of the house. Also, she hasn't done anything wrong.
Any idea how old toddler get before they stop pulling tails and fur, and has anyone got any strategies that have worked for them to stop this behaviour in the meantime?
Many thanks if you've got this far, I hadn't planned on it being an essay.
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Strategies please for disuading a toddler who grabs fur and pulls tails......
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FireOverBabylon · 30/07/2012 14:00
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