so angry with her I've had to ignore her calls because I might say something I regret.
She and her husband have behaved so irresponsibly. Their dd has been begging for a dog. They went to look round a local dogs home (which is really a fucking pound) they came away with a dog that had only just been brought in. No quarantine or assessments!! They have 4 young children ffs!
A few days later they had to take the dog to the vets because it was clearly unwell. Turns out it had kennel cough.
One week later they decide a dog isn't for them because of the vets bills, chewing, shit etc and take the poor thing back to the bloody dogs home!!!
Poor dog! Been dumped at pound. Taken to a strange home. Then dumped back at pound. I can't imagine how stressed the poor thing has been.
Why the hell do people think it's ok to treat a dog like this?!
We have been friends for 10 years but don't think I can look her in the face again.
If you're worried about your pet's health, please speak to a vet or qualified professional.
The doghouse
I'm so angry about my friend
DogGoneMad · 15/09/2011 15:52
How would your friend know if a dog was going to fit into her family if she didn't get one? I understand to a degree why you're annoyed but I also understand where your friend is coming from. We have a dog, have had her for nearly 15 yes and I hate it. I don't hate the dog but I do hate having a dog and all that it entails. DH thinks animals are part of the family whereas I think animals are pets. I hate that my dc can't play on the carpet without getting covered in fur, no matter how much I vacuum, I hate that they can't just go and play in the garden without it being inspected and don't get me started on picking up shit
. Kennel fees are so expensive but I'm not telling the dc we can't do what we want on holiday because of a dog! We camp btw so couldn't leave her in the tent while out.
Having a dog has definitely put me off ever having another one.
Sorry to jump on your thread.
My Dad camps with his dogs with no problem at all (well one out of three. One is aggressive, the other is my sister's and she won't allow him to go). They are letting my kids take Whippy with them next year.
I completely understand why your are annoyed Op, I'd feel the same, but I am afraid that I wouldn't be able to not say anything. I couldn't be friends with someone who thought animals were disposable in this way.
PGTip, it's not that they realised the dog was not right it's that they risked taking an unknown and untested dog from a pound, thus risking their children and the life of the dog if it went wrong. When it did go wrong they were unwilling to put their money where their mouth is and get a trainer in to put things right, instead they returned the dog to the pound where he will, most likely, be killed. They couldn't even give their 'pet' the curteosy of finding a reputable no kill rescue.
I made the mistake of taking in a pound dog. I thought I was experienced enough to pick a 'good' dog. I was wrong. I have spent hundreds of £££ putting that mistake right. Every behaviouralist in town knows of my dog 
. The pound will get him back over my dead body.
I'd be equally annoyed at someone who just realised that dog ownership was not for them. Why don't people think things through? It's fairly obvious, to even the most dim that if you get a dog it will shit in your garden, it will shed hair on your carpets, it is possible it will chew things, it will need vetinary care (kennel cough is cheap to treat btw), it will need training and it will not just settle in and adapt within a week or two. I despair of people sometimes, really I do 
I pray the doggy gets a happy ending and someone else comes forward for him before it is too late, preferrably an experienced rescue. You should send your friend . English dogs get 7 days, that is the only difference and in the words of DogsBestFriend, it's our taxes that pay for this .
PGTips, yes things change but I wasn't talking about your original decision to adopt a dog, I was talking of how you feel now. And, truthfully, you wouldn't pass a homecheck with a reputable rescue if you felt as you do now and so it should be, for your sake and that of your marriage, for the sake of the example you would be setting to your DC about owning a dog and of course for the sake of the dog.
Naturally no novice can know what it's like to own a dog but a properly carried out homecheck and meetings with rescue prior to adoption would have enabled them to identify the most suitable dog for the applicants or perhaps say that the applicants aren't suitable candidates to own a dog. The better the assessment and checks, the less chance of the dog being returned or worse, taken to be PTS.
These checks and assessments allow rescue to tell of the joys, allay the applicant's fears and warn of the potential pitfalls of dog owning. A decent rescue will be there to offer support for the rest of the dog's life, meaning that when he chewed the DCs favourite toy rescue would be just a phone call away, advising on how to prevent it happening again and how not to punish the dog but instead how to train him. Instead these people took on an unassessed dog from a pound - into a house with 4 kids FFS 
- and when the dog chewed they had no-one to advise them and no professional support so they dumped him back in the pound.
I wouldn'yt speak to them again either. Or rather, they probably wouldn't speak to me again after I'd told them what I thought...
I seem to have upset two of my new neighbours already. The first as they were going to let their un health tested Cav 'sow his oats; with some relatives cav. The other as their friend thought their cat was pregnant. Well, yes, if you're irresponsible enough to let them out unspayed, that tends ot happen....
Surely anyway, if the dog has now been surrendered to the pound, they can put it to sleep right away if they feel like it? idiots! If people want a dog then I feel they have a responsibility to ensure it is from a reputable and reliable source and do their research to ensure that's what happens.
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Poor dog. I agree the friend was probably acting more out of ignorance than malice, but that doesn't really change the outcome for the dog. Sounds like the 'rescue' was negligent as well though, handing over an unassessed dog to an inexperienced home with four small children, when the adults in the family weren't even sure if they wanted a dog at all .
I don't get the attitude of resenting a dog for restricting what you can do on holiday, costing you money etc, I love my dog and his happiness and wellbeing are pretty much at the top of my list of priorities. Actually just got back from a long weekend of camping with DP and dog and we had a fantastic time, all three of us. And seeing him happy makes us happy! Yes we're somewhat restricted in what we can do (as you are if you have children, to some extent) and can't always be as 'selfish' as we were as a pet-free, child-free couple now we have him to think of, but that's nothing compared to the love and joy he brings into our lives :)
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