I've been a lone parent for 7 years now, and whilst I've had flings, I've never met anyone I wanted to introduce to my DDs. Recently though, I've been seeing a lovely guy, and due to lack of childcare I'd like him to come round the house once a week or so as well as me having babysitters for us to go out. The problem is that both my girls are horrified by the idea. Firstly, they can't stand the idea that their Mum would go out with a man (even though their Dad left to live with his current partner). Secondly, they are very reluctant to spend time with my new partner. Its not as if they've got to know him enough to dislike him, they just don't want to be around him.
Was wondering if anyone had any thoughts about the best way I should handle this. Currently, I'm just letting them stay away if they want, in their rooms and so on. And am trying to not rise to the nasty comments when I do go out or take a phone call etc. I know its hard for them, and they feel threatened. But part of me feels its really unfair cos I'm always there for them. Their Dad, although financially supportive, only sees them on his terms. I'm just hoping it gets better with time. Its really early days with this guy, we're certainly not moving in together or anything. And I try to reassure them of that. But I feel I'm not doing anything wrong by letting him into our lives a bit. Any thoughts people??
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theheadgirl · 25/01/2010 23:10
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