so my boy has started dating and I am a little surprised about why first serious relationship finished.

[pagwatch]

He is 15. His girlfriend is the same age.
And they finished because he isn't ready to have sex with her yet?

Am i truly ancient because somehow this was not the scenario i expected to be supporting him through.

[GreenMonkies]

I think that's fantastic (in a pervese way) and a testament to how well you've raised him and what a great, sensitive and caring boy he is.

Be proud.

Monkies

[Poledra]

Pag, I have 3 daughters under 5 - I hope that in 10 years time, they are meeting boys like your son

[gagarin]

dear oh dear - you believe him???

[gagarin]

That looks harsh! What I meant is that sounds like a good rationalisation for the end of a relationship.

But it could in reality be a "cover" for any other reason - inc an uncomfortable first sexual experience in which he found himself out of his depth and potentially deeply embarrassed.

I doubt if he'll tell you more but you never know!

[IAteRosemaryConleyForBreakfast]

pagwatch - if there had been more boys like your son around when I was a teenager I think those years would have been much less miserable for me

[pagwatch]

actually gagarin I know it is true as I was caught outside his bedroom while they finished and over heard the whole thing.

We have a strange layout in our house. I wasn't evedropping but loading the washing machine and then couldn't make my presence known without embaressing them both.

[2shoes]

gagarin believe it or not not all teens are ready to jump into bed. most of them prefer to wait as they are so well aware of all the complications involved.
well done to pagwatch's ds, tbh I am not suprised that the gf was more ready, having met some of the girls ds knows and going by his last gf. the girls seem way more mature in that way than the boys.

[pagwatch]

I was pretty surprised that she was prepared to end it over that tbh. I think you are probably right 2shoes. Perhaps she wants to find an experienced boyfriend if she feels she is ready but not experienced herself.

thanks for all your comments. I am plaesed it does not seem to have worried or upset him - I was concerned before he discussed it with me that his reaction would be to imediately 'catch up' ( also a little concerned that that would be DH's advice if he asked him ).
Fortunately he thinks she is being 'immature' by making such a big deal of this.

I was endlessly pounced on as a teenager so I am quite pleased that he hasn't turned out like that.

[gagarin]

2shoes - I do know that.

But if you rely on what teenagers tell you then you can miss some terrible hurt that they are going through. They are very private beings and are liable to put a spin on the most painful of life events to spare themselves and their parents. That is what I was trying to say.

So pagwatch - well done for evesdropping even in error.

[pagwatch]

I shall be doing a lot of washing when he gets his next girlfriend !